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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 425772" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Well, for starters, your brother was wrong to post something that should remain private within the family/extended family - not for the entire world to see and cause bad feelings. I have noticed that 23 year olds these days may as well be 14 year olds - they behave like adolescents in so many aspects, makes me question our world and other parents out there, really. </span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">In my family, I regret sharing so much of our difficulties concerning difficult child with one sister in particular. Years later, it all came out in the wash that her children have their own issues while for years she tried to come across as being the only sibling in the family with perfect children - ha! A laugh in its truest form! </span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Throughout all the years I really made an effort to NOT give anything away on MySpace or Facebook (barely even used MySpace - it was a way to keep an eye on difficult child, really). difficult child, on the other hand, posted every little seemingly insignificant detail, which in turn, caused exh's family to call me on several occasions inquiring as to what was going on...why was difficult child so _____(fill in any emotion she was feeling that <em><strong>moment</strong></em>). I finally developed a standard answer to them: "She's a teenager - would you like to speak directly with her?" and left it at that. I hated using that as an excuse, but there it is. I had my own limitations on how much I could stand! Incidentally, my exsisterinlaw threw difficult child's sexual assault in difficult child's face at a recent family gathering and it really upset difficult child (and the rest of us - of course, exh didn't say a word, but he did giggle because he knew difficult child was about to go off on her aunt). What her aunt said was completely out of line, not to mention out of left field. I defriended her on facebook and during my recent visit to LI, I made no effort to see her - I don't trust what I might say face to face, Know what I mean??</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Anyway, I learned, through trial and error, which extended family members I could trust and which ones I could not (for instance, loco sister). </span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">I think your asking your brother to remove his status was okay and I think you just need to be careful who you share with going forward. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 425772, member: 2211"] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Well, for starters, your brother was wrong to post something that should remain private within the family/extended family - not for the entire world to see and cause bad feelings. I have noticed that 23 year olds these days may as well be 14 year olds - they behave like adolescents in so many aspects, makes me question our world and other parents out there, really. [/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]In my family, I regret sharing so much of our difficulties concerning difficult child with one sister in particular. Years later, it all came out in the wash that her children have their own issues while for years she tried to come across as being the only sibling in the family with perfect children - ha! A laugh in its truest form! [/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Throughout all the years I really made an effort to NOT give anything away on MySpace or Facebook (barely even used MySpace - it was a way to keep an eye on difficult child, really). difficult child, on the other hand, posted every little seemingly insignificant detail, which in turn, caused exh's family to call me on several occasions inquiring as to what was going on...why was difficult child so _____(fill in any emotion she was feeling that [I][B]moment[/B][/I]). I finally developed a standard answer to them: "She's a teenager - would you like to speak directly with her?" and left it at that. I hated using that as an excuse, but there it is. I had my own limitations on how much I could stand! Incidentally, my exsisterinlaw threw difficult child's sexual assault in difficult child's face at a recent family gathering and it really upset difficult child (and the rest of us - of course, exh didn't say a word, but he did giggle because he knew difficult child was about to go off on her aunt). What her aunt said was completely out of line, not to mention out of left field. I defriended her on facebook and during my recent visit to LI, I made no effort to see her - I don't trust what I might say face to face, Know what I mean??[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Anyway, I learned, through trial and error, which extended family members I could trust and which ones I could not (for instance, loco sister). [/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]I think your asking your brother to remove his status was okay and I think you just need to be careful who you share with going forward. [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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