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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 661368" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Wow, I don't blame you for feeling betrayed. What a mess.</p><p>It's hard enough to deal our D C's without the complication of family. I think everyone had good intentions but just did not truly grasp the reality of the situation.</p><p>The grandparents were not naïve, you have been up front with them. It was very kind of them to have your son stay there unfortunately it did not go well.</p><p>Jabber's siblings should not have discussed this among themselves, they should have been on the phone with you and Jabber.</p><p>Good old hindsight!!</p><p>Now you are left with the hurt feelings and broken trust. The really hard part is that it all stems from your son's behavior. Yes, if he would not have had a melt down none of this would have happened but it did and while he is the one who got the ball rolling, he still got hurt. If he were my son's age (33) I would not have any empathy for him but he's still young. For him to now feel that no one in the family cares about him is just so sad.</p><p>I think these are the types of things that can make a D C's self esteem really spiral downward. They already struggle with self esteem.</p><p>Your son was wrong to behave the way he did and the result was Jabber's parents felt scared and that is unacceptable. I do understand the siblings concern but they really should have discussed this with you and Jabber when it happened, not wait until you were at the family reunion.</p><p>Now, you are left with the fallout of your son's meltdown with Jabber's parents and all because they let him stay there. Everyone got hurt, including your son.</p><p>I so hope your son can truly see the ripple effect of his actions and I hope that there can be forgiveness all the way around.</p><p>((HUGS)) to you both!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 661368, member: 18516"] Wow, I don't blame you for feeling betrayed. What a mess. It's hard enough to deal our D C's without the complication of family. I think everyone had good intentions but just did not truly grasp the reality of the situation. The grandparents were not naïve, you have been up front with them. It was very kind of them to have your son stay there unfortunately it did not go well. Jabber's siblings should not have discussed this among themselves, they should have been on the phone with you and Jabber. Good old hindsight!! Now you are left with the hurt feelings and broken trust. The really hard part is that it all stems from your son's behavior. Yes, if he would not have had a melt down none of this would have happened but it did and while he is the one who got the ball rolling, he still got hurt. If he were my son's age (33) I would not have any empathy for him but he's still young. For him to now feel that no one in the family cares about him is just so sad. I think these are the types of things that can make a D C's self esteem really spiral downward. They already struggle with self esteem. Your son was wrong to behave the way he did and the result was Jabber's parents felt scared and that is unacceptable. I do understand the siblings concern but they really should have discussed this with you and Jabber when it happened, not wait until you were at the family reunion. Now, you are left with the fallout of your son's meltdown with Jabber's parents and all because they let him stay there. Everyone got hurt, including your son. I so hope your son can truly see the ripple effect of his actions and I hope that there can be forgiveness all the way around. ((HUGS)) to you both!! [/QUOTE]
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