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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 661370" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Lil & Jabber,</p><p></p><p>This is tough and I know you already figured that much out.</p><p></p><p>Jabber's parents sound so great. They obviously love your son and wanted to be the folks who could help him turn his ship around. My parents tried with my Difficult Child. It went south fast. (This was after he was offered a seemingly wonderful re-entry program - counseling, job help, health insurance, don't get me started). They just knew Difficult Child would so appreciate their help, that he would be slowly, but be miraculously healed. My mom is also uber-religious.</p><p></p><p>I hate that all this happened within your family. Things will settle down. It will get better. You are in the middle of huge drama, but it won't last. Betting some of the sisters already feel some guilt about this. They just wanted to ensure the safety of the parents. Right then, they had to do SOMETHING. They were not sure what to do; they just felt they had to take some kind of action. And, we can understand that and how panic-driven decisions might have led to some bad calls. The parents were the center of their concerns.</p><p></p><p>I, too, grew up in a family where all the men had pocket knives. It was a rite of passage. Around 12yo (okay, i grew up as a redneck), the boy got a pocket knife. If you feel yourself in a threatening situation, a fingernail file is scary. So, that makes sense to me, also. Probably, i only noticed the pocket knife part because i get that it is normal.....unless you are scared. Our youngest son told us (years later) that Difficult Child came into his bedroom and pulled out his pocket knife and had the younger son terrified....because Difficult Child was so irrational at that moment.</p><p></p><p>My Difficult Child has never hit anybody, to my knowledge. But, he sure could/can be scary/mean/difficult to deal with.</p><p></p><p>I am sending good thoughts your way and trusting each day will get a bit easier. We live through these Difficult Child traumatic events and it seems life has just spiraled out of control and there will never be love and trust again....but we are almost always wrong about that.</p><p></p><p></p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 661370, member: 17635"] Lil & Jabber, This is tough and I know you already figured that much out. Jabber's parents sound so great. They obviously love your son and wanted to be the folks who could help him turn his ship around. My parents tried with my Difficult Child. It went south fast. (This was after he was offered a seemingly wonderful re-entry program - counseling, job help, health insurance, don't get me started). They just knew Difficult Child would so appreciate their help, that he would be slowly, but be miraculously healed. My mom is also uber-religious. I hate that all this happened within your family. Things will settle down. It will get better. You are in the middle of huge drama, but it won't last. Betting some of the sisters already feel some guilt about this. They just wanted to ensure the safety of the parents. Right then, they had to do SOMETHING. They were not sure what to do; they just felt they had to take some kind of action. And, we can understand that and how panic-driven decisions might have led to some bad calls. The parents were the center of their concerns. I, too, grew up in a family where all the men had pocket knives. It was a rite of passage. Around 12yo (okay, i grew up as a redneck), the boy got a pocket knife. If you feel yourself in a threatening situation, a fingernail file is scary. So, that makes sense to me, also. Probably, i only noticed the pocket knife part because i get that it is normal.....unless you are scared. Our youngest son told us (years later) that Difficult Child came into his bedroom and pulled out his pocket knife and had the younger son terrified....because Difficult Child was so irrational at that moment. My Difficult Child has never hit anybody, to my knowledge. But, he sure could/can be scary/mean/difficult to deal with. I am sending good thoughts your way and trusting each day will get a bit easier. We live through these Difficult Child traumatic events and it seems life has just spiraled out of control and there will never be love and trust again....but we are almost always wrong about that. SS [/QUOTE]
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