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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 661410" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I understand well why you are upset and can relate. My husband has big, tight knitted family, and Ache isn't hubby's biological child (and there was quite a lot drama surrounding that, we are okay with it with hubby, some in-laws not so much.) That factor complicates things a lot.</p><p></p><p>To me it sounds that Jabber's sister has an idea on how you should treat your son - and tries to force it on you. I find that quite disrespectful. Yes, your son caused the need to remove him from grandparents' home, but going over your head, basically lying to you, trying to force your hand and blindsiding your son and giving promises not planning to keep and even interfering the motel thing is real rude towards you too.</p><p></p><p>I also have to agree with IC that, this sort of betrayal from his aunt is not something your son will forget. He may forgive it at some point and they may be civil with each other, but building back the trust is not likely to happen. Even if in some point your son will turn to the most upstanding citizen it only makes sense to keep in mind how people treated you when you were down. Consequences of one's actions, like having to leave grandparenrs' place, is one thing, but setting him up in so dishonest and cruel way is another. </p><p></p><p>His aunt may think she is teaching him a lesson, or making you to treat him 'the right way' or helping him to hit his 'rock bottom' and her intentions may be most honorable, but how it plays out feels like cruel betrayal; and those are not something anyone would forget.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 661410, member: 14557"] I understand well why you are upset and can relate. My husband has big, tight knitted family, and Ache isn't hubby's biological child (and there was quite a lot drama surrounding that, we are okay with it with hubby, some in-laws not so much.) That factor complicates things a lot. To me it sounds that Jabber's sister has an idea on how you should treat your son - and tries to force it on you. I find that quite disrespectful. Yes, your son caused the need to remove him from grandparents' home, but going over your head, basically lying to you, trying to force your hand and blindsiding your son and giving promises not planning to keep and even interfering the motel thing is real rude towards you too. I also have to agree with IC that, this sort of betrayal from his aunt is not something your son will forget. He may forgive it at some point and they may be civil with each other, but building back the trust is not likely to happen. Even if in some point your son will turn to the most upstanding citizen it only makes sense to keep in mind how people treated you when you were down. Consequences of one's actions, like having to leave grandparenrs' place, is one thing, but setting him up in so dishonest and cruel way is another. His aunt may think she is teaching him a lesson, or making you to treat him 'the right way' or helping him to hit his 'rock bottom' and her intentions may be most honorable, but how it plays out feels like cruel betrayal; and those are not something anyone would forget. [/QUOTE]
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