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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 661459" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>No, Lil. It doesn't have to be your fault.</p><p>For starters, you are only responsible for 50% of his DNA. And you didn't exactly get to pick your own DNA either. <em>This is not about YOUR parenting.</em></p><p> </p><p></p><p>This is just about classical Aspie. He doesn't see the degree of separation in the message. I'm sure the grandparents said exactly the same things to their kids. Them doing it, didn't ever make it right in the eyes of the grandparents. And they are holding a consistent line and giving him the same message. But your son doesn't know about those earlier messages. So he looks at it and says... if your KIDS can do this, then I can too, what's the big deal?</p><p> </p><p>The whole meltdown thing that precipitated all of this is also... typically Aspie. I was well into my 20s before I could consistently avoid a meltdown. I didn't carry a knife, and wasn't exactly the intimidating sort. So I just looked ridiculous.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 661459, member: 11791"] No, Lil. It doesn't have to be your fault. For starters, you are only responsible for 50% of his DNA. And you didn't exactly get to pick your own DNA either. [I]This is not about YOUR parenting.[/I] This is just about classical Aspie. He doesn't see the degree of separation in the message. I'm sure the grandparents said exactly the same things to their kids. Them doing it, didn't ever make it right in the eyes of the grandparents. And they are holding a consistent line and giving him the same message. But your son doesn't know about those earlier messages. So he looks at it and says... if your KIDS can do this, then I can too, what's the big deal? The whole meltdown thing that precipitated all of this is also... typically Aspie. I was well into my 20s before I could consistently avoid a meltdown. I didn't carry a knife, and wasn't exactly the intimidating sort. So I just looked ridiculous. [/QUOTE]
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