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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 358772" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Nicole, and welcome! You've found a great group of people who can lend support, advice, ideas, and, most importantly, a shoulder.</p><p></p><p>I really wish I could give you the secret to feeling like you're a good mom when you're dealing with- 2 kiddos with- special needs, as well as kids with- more typical needs. I think what it finally boiled down to for me was still being able to get up and do it again after having one of those really rough days. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> In hindsight, it seems like there was at least a decade where all I did was put out fires. It sure wasn't what I thought motherhood would be - we spent way too much time in hospitals/ERs/doctor offices and not enough time making cookies and playing games, but we do what we have to do. </p><p></p><p>I think one of the most important things you can do for your kids is take care of you. It was the advice I got when I first came to this board over 11 years ago. Can't say I immediately followed it, but over the years I've realized that if I don't give myself a little TLC every now and then, I'm absolutely useless to my kids. Doesn't have to be big stuff - sometimes all I need is an hour at the mall window shopping, or hanging out at a bookstore with a cup of coffee and a new book, or even just getting out and taking a walk. Taking time to soothe those frazzled edges is so very worth it. I know it's hard to do when you are living from crisis to crisis, and it seems like an impossible task to chisel out an hour just for you, but once you get in the habit, it will really do wonders. </p><p></p><p>What kind of supports do you have for you? A partner? Family? Friends? Job? Do you have supports for your kiddos - respite, babysitting?</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome and I'm so glad you found us. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 358772, member: 8"] Hi Nicole, and welcome! You've found a great group of people who can lend support, advice, ideas, and, most importantly, a shoulder. I really wish I could give you the secret to feeling like you're a good mom when you're dealing with- 2 kiddos with- special needs, as well as kids with- more typical needs. I think what it finally boiled down to for me was still being able to get up and do it again after having one of those really rough days. :winking: In hindsight, it seems like there was at least a decade where all I did was put out fires. It sure wasn't what I thought motherhood would be - we spent way too much time in hospitals/ERs/doctor offices and not enough time making cookies and playing games, but we do what we have to do. I think one of the most important things you can do for your kids is take care of you. It was the advice I got when I first came to this board over 11 years ago. Can't say I immediately followed it, but over the years I've realized that if I don't give myself a little TLC every now and then, I'm absolutely useless to my kids. Doesn't have to be big stuff - sometimes all I need is an hour at the mall window shopping, or hanging out at a bookstore with a cup of coffee and a new book, or even just getting out and taking a walk. Taking time to soothe those frazzled edges is so very worth it. I know it's hard to do when you are living from crisis to crisis, and it seems like an impossible task to chisel out an hour just for you, but once you get in the habit, it will really do wonders. What kind of supports do you have for you? A partner? Family? Friends? Job? Do you have supports for your kiddos - respite, babysitting? Again, welcome and I'm so glad you found us. :happy: [/QUOTE]
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