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<blockquote data-quote="katt261" data-source="post: 557709"><p>Hi TerryJ2, his response was quite terse at first, but after I explained that we need time out as a couple otherwise we would be heading down the pan, he was more condusive to the idea of spending time away from difficult child. SO has been offered respite care by the local Barnardos charity in our home town and he has never looked into this so I asked if this is something he could look into, even if difficult child has a few hours away from the family home, we could reconnect as a couple rather than two adults going crazy and constantly locking horns. His reaction to the respite query was one of 'I'm not having difficult child fobbed off on anyone...he'll feel like I am abandoning him!' to which I calmly stated that difficult child would not be abandoned at all, he attends mainstream school and is supervised by professionals, how is a couple of hours with a professionally qualified carer going to make any difference? I get the impression that SO wants to wrap difficult child up in cottom wool constantly but surely it is more beneficial to SO and difficult child's relationship if time apart was supervised by appropriate adults, whereby difficult child then comes to an understanding that SO isn't 'going anywhere' or abandoning him and thereby reducing the manic need of difficult child to have SO's constant attention and creating this tense atmosphere on a daily basis??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katt261, post: 557709"] Hi TerryJ2, his response was quite terse at first, but after I explained that we need time out as a couple otherwise we would be heading down the pan, he was more condusive to the idea of spending time away from difficult child. SO has been offered respite care by the local Barnardos charity in our home town and he has never looked into this so I asked if this is something he could look into, even if difficult child has a few hours away from the family home, we could reconnect as a couple rather than two adults going crazy and constantly locking horns. His reaction to the respite query was one of 'I'm not having difficult child fobbed off on anyone...he'll feel like I am abandoning him!' to which I calmly stated that difficult child would not be abandoned at all, he attends mainstream school and is supervised by professionals, how is a couple of hours with a professionally qualified carer going to make any difference? I get the impression that SO wants to wrap difficult child up in cottom wool constantly but surely it is more beneficial to SO and difficult child's relationship if time apart was supervised by appropriate adults, whereby difficult child then comes to an understanding that SO isn't 'going anywhere' or abandoning him and thereby reducing the manic need of difficult child to have SO's constant attention and creating this tense atmosphere on a daily basis?? [/QUOTE]
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