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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 683703" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>HI and welcome, YF.</p><p></p><p>It is hard enough to have an adult child with a mental illness/substance abuse/otherwise failure to thrive situation, and then throw into the mix a blended family situation--makes things really difficult.</p><p></p><p>I know how your wife feels, as I came into my current marriage with a young child and a new step-son with a drug addiction, which got worse (behavior-wise) when he started on the dreaded 'spice' or 'synthetic marijuana' or 'K-2' as it is sometimes called.</p><p></p><p>Your wife is feeling like her home is no longer a place of peace and joy. This can't go on forever.</p><p></p><p>It is very important that you and your wife communicate often about the situation. She is feeling betrayed by the bait-and-switch that your son did, but so are you. Talk to her tonight, go somewhere else if you need privacy, become a united front and decide how to get this young man out of your house. Let her know that you will be there for her.</p><p></p><p>One thing that my hubby did for me, that really helped keep our marriage strong through the Difficult Child problems, is that he never allowed his boys to be disrespectful of me. The one time step-son called me an ugly name, I threw down the item I was putting away and was heading out the door with my daughter, when hubby ordered his adult son out before I could get there. </p><p></p><p>Can you afford to put your son in a cheap motel for a while, or in some other way get him out of the house? Does he work, or have any money coming in to get a cheap rooming house type room? Any way to ease him out of the house?</p><p></p><p>For a while it seemed as if, when we got tired of the shenanigans, his mom would take him in for a while, and visa versa. Then we did the 'pay for a month's rent someplace just to get him out of the house' thing. Anything was better than living with him at the time.</p><p></p><p>Just taking control of your life back will be a relief.</p><p></p><p>Do you have any minor children in the home?</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, YF, and stay with us. It helps.</p><p></p><p>Apple</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 683703, member: 16024"] HI and welcome, YF. It is hard enough to have an adult child with a mental illness/substance abuse/otherwise failure to thrive situation, and then throw into the mix a blended family situation--makes things really difficult. I know how your wife feels, as I came into my current marriage with a young child and a new step-son with a drug addiction, which got worse (behavior-wise) when he started on the dreaded 'spice' or 'synthetic marijuana' or 'K-2' as it is sometimes called. Your wife is feeling like her home is no longer a place of peace and joy. This can't go on forever. It is very important that you and your wife communicate often about the situation. She is feeling betrayed by the bait-and-switch that your son did, but so are you. Talk to her tonight, go somewhere else if you need privacy, become a united front and decide how to get this young man out of your house. Let her know that you will be there for her. One thing that my hubby did for me, that really helped keep our marriage strong through the Difficult Child problems, is that he never allowed his boys to be disrespectful of me. The one time step-son called me an ugly name, I threw down the item I was putting away and was heading out the door with my daughter, when hubby ordered his adult son out before I could get there. Can you afford to put your son in a cheap motel for a while, or in some other way get him out of the house? Does he work, or have any money coming in to get a cheap rooming house type room? Any way to ease him out of the house? For a while it seemed as if, when we got tired of the shenanigans, his mom would take him in for a while, and visa versa. Then we did the 'pay for a month's rent someplace just to get him out of the house' thing. Anything was better than living with him at the time. Just taking control of your life back will be a relief. Do you have any minor children in the home? Keep posting, YF, and stay with us. It helps. Apple [/QUOTE]
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