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Feeling disheartened re daughter :-(
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<blockquote data-quote="Gone" data-source="post: 640473"><p>I was thinking of joining a families anonymous group for some support , you are right , strangers and people who understand are often better than family</p><p></p><p>I do not support my difficult child financially at all , she pays her own way with everything and knows she has to</p><p></p><p>Her mobile phone is cut off right now and so be it</p><p></p><p>She has a car but if she cannot afford it's upkeep she will have to sell it</p><p></p><p>Yes , my family are messed up and I have to realise I will get NO SUPPORT from them!!!</p><p></p><p>I turned to my sister for support and ENCOURAGEMENT and of course got neither , she is my older sister so I like the thought of having ''big sis to look up to'' but it is not like that unfortunately</p><p></p><p>She didn't ASK how things were , she NEVER asks how things are and I find that WORSE , her lack of concern , she just doesn't want to know and when I DO tell her coz I want some support myself I get zilch and I end up with extra anger and feeling worse</p><p></p><p>I know I cannot change the situation , have just decided to do my BEST and that is all I can do! The rest is up to difficult child and SS so I have to leave them to it in a way but hope they SEE I have my GS's absolute best interests at heart and WILL safeguard him completely etc - Have done all SS have asked and more and you are right that is ALL I can do</p><p></p><p>Am off to visit my older daughter and 2 year old GD tomorrow and YES I have been neglecting them in the past as the ''family crisis'' took over , my difficult child is a walking crisis sometimes LOL BUT I DO have to concentrate on my own life , haven't been out hardly at all since the real hard stuff began but am going out to a pub on Thursday , won't be drinking myself , have completely gone off the stuff at the moment , but just to SOCIALISE with others will be nice and I won't DISCLOSE stuff , that I will keep for the professionals like you said plus on here and the famanon group which I feel will help me A LOT , much more than family members to be honest and at least as you say I can ENJOY those family members I DO enjoy eg my older daughter and little GD and I get on ok with some other extended family members too who lead peaceful lives and believe in living a clean life etc</p><p></p><p>I do just want to be healthy which is so hard in these circumstances but am working on it , doing my best , dealing with things , trying to move forward in it which I feel I am as it has been ongoing for 9 months solid now and I do need some respite sometimes! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Doing stuff for me , enjoying my home which I do , but have to deal with the UNKNOWN best I can as it is worrying knowing madam wants to take my GS in under 2 WEEKS TIME which is LOOMING so having a clear plan of how to handle the situation makes me feel calmer , a solid plan , stick to it , get on with it and keep moving on forward , not saying it is not stressful as it is - I think I need a ''massage therapist'' saw a ''hair therapist'' ( hairdresser lol ) last week and need to do nice things for me to help me keep going and to concentrate on myself , but it has been hard , I can't say it has not!! x</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Gone, post: 640473"] I was thinking of joining a families anonymous group for some support , you are right , strangers and people who understand are often better than family I do not support my difficult child financially at all , she pays her own way with everything and knows she has to Her mobile phone is cut off right now and so be it She has a car but if she cannot afford it's upkeep she will have to sell it Yes , my family are messed up and I have to realise I will get NO SUPPORT from them!!! I turned to my sister for support and ENCOURAGEMENT and of course got neither , she is my older sister so I like the thought of having ''big sis to look up to'' but it is not like that unfortunately She didn't ASK how things were , she NEVER asks how things are and I find that WORSE , her lack of concern , she just doesn't want to know and when I DO tell her coz I want some support myself I get zilch and I end up with extra anger and feeling worse I know I cannot change the situation , have just decided to do my BEST and that is all I can do! The rest is up to difficult child and SS so I have to leave them to it in a way but hope they SEE I have my GS's absolute best interests at heart and WILL safeguard him completely etc - Have done all SS have asked and more and you are right that is ALL I can do Am off to visit my older daughter and 2 year old GD tomorrow and YES I have been neglecting them in the past as the ''family crisis'' took over , my difficult child is a walking crisis sometimes LOL BUT I DO have to concentrate on my own life , haven't been out hardly at all since the real hard stuff began but am going out to a pub on Thursday , won't be drinking myself , have completely gone off the stuff at the moment , but just to SOCIALISE with others will be nice and I won't DISCLOSE stuff , that I will keep for the professionals like you said plus on here and the famanon group which I feel will help me A LOT , much more than family members to be honest and at least as you say I can ENJOY those family members I DO enjoy eg my older daughter and little GD and I get on ok with some other extended family members too who lead peaceful lives and believe in living a clean life etc I do just want to be healthy which is so hard in these circumstances but am working on it , doing my best , dealing with things , trying to move forward in it which I feel I am as it has been ongoing for 9 months solid now and I do need some respite sometimes! ;) Doing stuff for me , enjoying my home which I do , but have to deal with the UNKNOWN best I can as it is worrying knowing madam wants to take my GS in under 2 WEEKS TIME which is LOOMING so having a clear plan of how to handle the situation makes me feel calmer , a solid plan , stick to it , get on with it and keep moving on forward , not saying it is not stressful as it is - I think I need a ''massage therapist'' saw a ''hair therapist'' ( hairdresser lol ) last week and need to do nice things for me to help me keep going and to concentrate on myself , but it has been hard , I can't say it has not!! x [/QUOTE]
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