Hi all,
What a ride I feel that I am on, I feel hopeless, depressed, anxious and currently disheartened with the education system
My son is 6 yrs. old, has just completed term one at primary school, with drastically below average results, at the start of the year I told the teacher he is on a waiting list to see a childhood specialist, as I believe he has an auditory processing problem, and possibly something else , I asked her if I could get a list of things they will be working on, so I could add them to my list of things that I work on with him at home, she said they will be holding a parent info night soon, well they had the parent info night, which only outlined normal basics that a child would do at home anyway.
Periodically over the last term I have asked her how he is doing and how his behaviour has been, she has mentioned that he doesnt follow queue, and needs to be reminded to stay on task, this has never surprised me, and she has never mentioned anything at all about his behaviour though.
Last week his intermittent report came home with unsatisfactory on everything and asking to see myself and his father for a ( 15 min interview.)
The interview went terribly, she said he cant read, he cant write and well for maths he cant do that either.
I said he is more than capable of all those things, he counts to 100, admittedly sometimes I need to prompt him on the 10s , her response was we cant do that here .
She showed us his writing from that day, which was a whole heap of letters all together, admittedly when he writes with me at home, I remind him to use a space in between, and help him with some spelling.
She also showed us a work sheet asking them to write 20 AT words,in the alloted time given he had only completed 2 words Mat and Sat, I said these are words he does at home all the time and actually did the AT words this morning on reading eggs as we have been re doing his lessons, she said its a different format, I was so upset and my mind was reeling , I didnt mention we also do them on flash cards as well.
I said what can I do at home to help this, she looked at me blankly, I said I spend about an hour getting him to focus some days, she said thats too much , I said well what am I supposed to do not teach him ( bursting into tears) she said he needs to be a kid as well then continued saying he isnt even at entry level to year one, I said I spoke to his teacher in Prep and said I was concerned he wouldnt be ready for year one, she advised me he was fine to go up, his current Teacher said if hes not learning it doesnt matter what year he is in.
She showed us more unsatisfactory work.
We discussed the fact that he will be in to see a specialist in the next few months, and I asked if she could do a write up on my son for us to give to him, she said she couldnt but the school will get an assessment and will work with the specialist.
Then she went on to say that she has applied for my son to go to the special needs class twice a week, which I am happy about,
(Hopefully I can work closely with them, as I found his year 1 teacher very smiley but disconnected for finding any type of solution.)
Last but not least she said his behaviour needed to be improved immediately , well this was all new to me as far as school goes, she said he was out of control today and did anything happen at home this morning, I said no he was actually really good this morning, the only thing I could think of was he only had one mouth full of his weetbix , and that was a battle I wasnt willing to have , she said fair enough.
(In hindsight I should have mentioned that I had talked to him about his report and told him that his teacher doesnt think he can do his work and he needs to prove it to her.)
Anyway I was beside myself full blow negativity Interview with not one scrap of hope thrown in, I walked away with my head spinning and feeling extremely embarrassed that I had cried and continued to sit there fighting the tears back, I was wondering what the point was of my son going there 6 hours a day if they cant help him or prompt him, or just generally work with him, Im angry, confused and disheartened.
Yes my son can be a handful, yes my son finds it hard to focus, yes my son sometimes has a low level of comprehension, and until now that I am aware of,has managed to keep his worst misbehaviour for home, but I love him more than anything , want the best for him and want him to get better as any mother would .
Has anyone else had a similar experience? It would be nice to know I am not the only one
sorry not sure how the signature works, still trying to work all this out
33 yrs -Married mum of 2
What a ride I feel that I am on, I feel hopeless, depressed, anxious and currently disheartened with the education system
My son is 6 yrs. old, has just completed term one at primary school, with drastically below average results, at the start of the year I told the teacher he is on a waiting list to see a childhood specialist, as I believe he has an auditory processing problem, and possibly something else , I asked her if I could get a list of things they will be working on, so I could add them to my list of things that I work on with him at home, she said they will be holding a parent info night soon, well they had the parent info night, which only outlined normal basics that a child would do at home anyway.
Periodically over the last term I have asked her how he is doing and how his behaviour has been, she has mentioned that he doesnt follow queue, and needs to be reminded to stay on task, this has never surprised me, and she has never mentioned anything at all about his behaviour though.
Last week his intermittent report came home with unsatisfactory on everything and asking to see myself and his father for a ( 15 min interview.)
The interview went terribly, she said he cant read, he cant write and well for maths he cant do that either.
I said he is more than capable of all those things, he counts to 100, admittedly sometimes I need to prompt him on the 10s , her response was we cant do that here .
She showed us his writing from that day, which was a whole heap of letters all together, admittedly when he writes with me at home, I remind him to use a space in between, and help him with some spelling.
She also showed us a work sheet asking them to write 20 AT words,in the alloted time given he had only completed 2 words Mat and Sat, I said these are words he does at home all the time and actually did the AT words this morning on reading eggs as we have been re doing his lessons, she said its a different format, I was so upset and my mind was reeling , I didnt mention we also do them on flash cards as well.
I said what can I do at home to help this, she looked at me blankly, I said I spend about an hour getting him to focus some days, she said thats too much , I said well what am I supposed to do not teach him ( bursting into tears) she said he needs to be a kid as well then continued saying he isnt even at entry level to year one, I said I spoke to his teacher in Prep and said I was concerned he wouldnt be ready for year one, she advised me he was fine to go up, his current Teacher said if hes not learning it doesnt matter what year he is in.
She showed us more unsatisfactory work.
We discussed the fact that he will be in to see a specialist in the next few months, and I asked if she could do a write up on my son for us to give to him, she said she couldnt but the school will get an assessment and will work with the specialist.
Then she went on to say that she has applied for my son to go to the special needs class twice a week, which I am happy about,
(Hopefully I can work closely with them, as I found his year 1 teacher very smiley but disconnected for finding any type of solution.)
Last but not least she said his behaviour needed to be improved immediately , well this was all new to me as far as school goes, she said he was out of control today and did anything happen at home this morning, I said no he was actually really good this morning, the only thing I could think of was he only had one mouth full of his weetbix , and that was a battle I wasnt willing to have , she said fair enough.
(In hindsight I should have mentioned that I had talked to him about his report and told him that his teacher doesnt think he can do his work and he needs to prove it to her.)
Anyway I was beside myself full blow negativity Interview with not one scrap of hope thrown in, I walked away with my head spinning and feeling extremely embarrassed that I had cried and continued to sit there fighting the tears back, I was wondering what the point was of my son going there 6 hours a day if they cant help him or prompt him, or just generally work with him, Im angry, confused and disheartened.
Yes my son can be a handful, yes my son finds it hard to focus, yes my son sometimes has a low level of comprehension, and until now that I am aware of,has managed to keep his worst misbehaviour for home, but I love him more than anything , want the best for him and want him to get better as any mother would .
Has anyone else had a similar experience? It would be nice to know I am not the only one
sorry not sure how the signature works, still trying to work all this out
33 yrs -Married mum of 2
