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feeling guilty for my homeless 20yr.old son
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 732499" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Robin and welcome, you have posted to an old thread, so there might be some lag in response. Also, this site is publicly accessed so you may want to not only change your name, but if the photo is you son, change that too. We remain anonymous here to protect our privacy and our kids.</p><p>Holidays and birthdays, special days do have a tendency to stir up memories and feelings that we cover over to be able to face our daily lives.</p><p></p><p>I have done the same with my two, given them back to God, as their issues are way more than I can handle. As far as depression and guilt, that is a part of dealing with the rollercoaster hell ride we endure, and all of those natural feelings we have as moms to reel the tapes and figure out where WE went wrong. The thing is, our beloveds grow and make choices. When the choices are drugs and dealing and all of the crazy that comes along with that, it is a hard road to be on. Our homes are supposed to be our sanctuaries. The pattern these kids take is pretty repetitive. We reject the lifestyle and choices, they can get darn right nasty to us, while at the same time feeling entitled that we are supposed to endure their behaviors. Not only that, but they expect us to continue to house and feed them while they are abusive and refuse to follow rules.</p><p>Wrong.</p><p>I am glad that you have belief in a Higher Power, that is what has saved me through the ups and downs and sideways of this. The reality of our emotions and feelings we go through when dealing with this is that we are <em>grieving, </em>depression and guilt are right up there in the stages of grief. Honor those feelings and allow yourself time to process. </p><p>Be kind and gentle with yourself. </p><p>It is a battle we go through, one of the toughest I know. </p><p>I am sorry for your aching heart and all you have been through and are still going through.</p><p>Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Although we do not know one another here, we have become kindred spirits through our trials and tribulations of dealing with our beloved children, growing up and going off the rails. We are all on a similar path at different stages and try our best to support one another.</p><p>May you find peace. </p><p>It starts with disentangling from the web addiction weaves around our loved ones, and us. </p><p>It takes effort, and sometimes one moment, one breath at a time.</p><p>Welcome and gentle hugs to you.</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 732499, member: 19522"] Hi Robin and welcome, you have posted to an old thread, so there might be some lag in response. Also, this site is publicly accessed so you may want to not only change your name, but if the photo is you son, change that too. We remain anonymous here to protect our privacy and our kids. Holidays and birthdays, special days do have a tendency to stir up memories and feelings that we cover over to be able to face our daily lives. I have done the same with my two, given them back to God, as their issues are way more than I can handle. As far as depression and guilt, that is a part of dealing with the rollercoaster hell ride we endure, and all of those natural feelings we have as moms to reel the tapes and figure out where WE went wrong. The thing is, our beloveds grow and make choices. When the choices are drugs and dealing and all of the crazy that comes along with that, it is a hard road to be on. Our homes are supposed to be our sanctuaries. The pattern these kids take is pretty repetitive. We reject the lifestyle and choices, they can get darn right nasty to us, while at the same time feeling entitled that we are supposed to endure their behaviors. Not only that, but they expect us to continue to house and feed them while they are abusive and refuse to follow rules. Wrong. I am glad that you have belief in a Higher Power, that is what has saved me through the ups and downs and sideways of this. The reality of our emotions and feelings we go through when dealing with this is that we are [I]grieving, [/I]depression and guilt are right up there in the stages of grief. Honor those feelings and allow yourself time to process. Be kind and gentle with yourself. It is a battle we go through, one of the toughest I know. I am sorry for your aching heart and all you have been through and are still going through. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Although we do not know one another here, we have become kindred spirits through our trials and tribulations of dealing with our beloved children, growing up and going off the rails. We are all on a similar path at different stages and try our best to support one another. May you find peace. It starts with disentangling from the web addiction weaves around our loved ones, and us. It takes effort, and sometimes one moment, one breath at a time. Welcome and gentle hugs to you. Leafy [/QUOTE]
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