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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 666374" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>There are things that we must do in life, that we do not want to do. Never, ever would have done had it not been the only course open to us. You were in one of those horrible situations. You did what you had to do, even though there was nothing in you that wanted to do it. You did it for your family.</p><p>No matter how much you wanted to protect him and keep him from harm, you could not. Despite everything you did, the disease advanced to the point where he was tormented and he tormented others. He can now get help. He would not accept help, even hear of it, while he was with you.</p><p>I know you want to keep him safe. I know you always wanted to. Were you able to keep him safe from harm? From the voices, from the delusions? Or was he increasingly more possessed and governed by his fears and his limits?</p><p></p><p>Of course you do not want him out there alone. Of course.</p><p></p><p>Is it our role as mothers to keep our adult sons safe...even those mentally ill? When if we do so they become more and more consumed by the very diseases from which we seek to protect them. Do they not deserve their own lives and destinies? With the possibility of improvement? Gained from their own strengths. </p><p></p><p>I read that there is the genetically fueled impulse of mothers to keep sheltering their adult children until she is sure her child can survive in the world...she will hang on...at all costs to herself...and even to her children, because she is programmed to do so. We are going against biology, when we separate. There are times when we need to. When we must.</p><p></p><p>I know you believe you did the right thing...while you feel sometimes that you did not. Our impulse to keep our grown up children safe is "the call of the wild."</p><p></p><p>Try to rest your body and spirit. We care about you Feeling.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 666374, member: 18958"] There are things that we must do in life, that we do not want to do. Never, ever would have done had it not been the only course open to us. You were in one of those horrible situations. You did what you had to do, even though there was nothing in you that wanted to do it. You did it for your family. No matter how much you wanted to protect him and keep him from harm, you could not. Despite everything you did, the disease advanced to the point where he was tormented and he tormented others. He can now get help. He would not accept help, even hear of it, while he was with you. I know you want to keep him safe. I know you always wanted to. Were you able to keep him safe from harm? From the voices, from the delusions? Or was he increasingly more possessed and governed by his fears and his limits? Of course you do not want him out there alone. Of course. Is it our role as mothers to keep our adult sons safe...even those mentally ill? When if we do so they become more and more consumed by the very diseases from which we seek to protect them. Do they not deserve their own lives and destinies? With the possibility of improvement? Gained from their own strengths. I read that there is the genetically fueled impulse of mothers to keep sheltering their adult children until she is sure her child can survive in the world...she will hang on...at all costs to herself...and even to her children, because she is programmed to do so. We are going against biology, when we separate. There are times when we need to. When we must. I know you believe you did the right thing...while you feel sometimes that you did not. Our impulse to keep our grown up children safe is "the call of the wild." Try to rest your body and spirit. We care about you Feeling. COPA [/QUOTE]
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