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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 703192" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Wow.... very deep and profound</p><p></p><p>Copa, you are going through a spiritual metamorphosis. You are right. We cannot control others, but in realizing that true fact, we become free.</p><p></p><p>My troubled middle son up north feels that we are all trying the best that we can. Given our backgrounds and life expetiences, he feels this to be true. But, I argued that people have control and can choose to change.</p><p></p><p>That is my problem. I expect others to change. We do not have control over others. Yes, we can plead, cajole, guilt-trip, or reward to achieve a change in behavior. But, it is only temporary. Once you remove the stimulus or reward for the behavior modification, the desired behavior usually stops in time.</p><p></p><p>The only time that it continues is when the actual person wants and likes the change in behavior. Extrinsic rewards, as opposed to, intrinsic rewards. We cannot change them. They need to want to change. </p><p></p><p>Knowing this fact, is our freedom...from guilt, expectations, disappointment, etc.</p><p></p><p>I deal with behavior modification with my students all day.</p><p></p><p>Copa, you are very strong...with or without a tunic. Good night, dear friend</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 703192, member: 19245"] Wow.... very deep and profound Copa, you are going through a spiritual metamorphosis. You are right. We cannot control others, but in realizing that true fact, we become free. My troubled middle son up north feels that we are all trying the best that we can. Given our backgrounds and life expetiences, he feels this to be true. But, I argued that people have control and can choose to change. That is my problem. I expect others to change. We do not have control over others. Yes, we can plead, cajole, guilt-trip, or reward to achieve a change in behavior. But, it is only temporary. Once you remove the stimulus or reward for the behavior modification, the desired behavior usually stops in time. The only time that it continues is when the actual person wants and likes the change in behavior. Extrinsic rewards, as opposed to, intrinsic rewards. We cannot change them. They need to want to change. Knowing this fact, is our freedom...from guilt, expectations, disappointment, etc. I deal with behavior modification with my students all day. Copa, you are very strong...with or without a tunic. Good night, dear friend [/QUOTE]
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