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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 705347" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Well. This is uplifting.</p><p></p><p>Kind of him to share.</p><p></p><p>As does my son.</p><p></p><p>With my son, I know that he does it exactly to guilt trip me, to make me suffer, because I do. I cooperate. I oblige him. He has power over me this way. Power to evoke a response. You decide about the motivations of your own son.</p><p></p><p>If he did not have initiative. He would have stopped school a year ago. He is doing it because he has fight in him.</p><p></p><p>My son has not worked in almost 5 years, except for us.</p><p></p><p>Nonetheless, I am glad he came home. (He was gone 5 weeks. He did not want to take a drug test.)</p><p></p><p>I think your son tries to throw you the hot potato. Remember that game? He feels guilt, makes himself suffer, in ways he seems to as yet be unable to control. Except, if he shares his suffering with you, for a moment he feels better. Or is it he is unconsciously punishing you. Because he holds you responsible in some way, for ejecting his brother.</p><p></p><p>You know the truth. You know why you had to do it. You can decide to not accept the hot potato. To say no. If you were able to do this, be able to reclaim your life, and self--you would model this to middle son, that he can do the same.</p><p></p><p>We are getting there, Feeling. The long and winding road. That leads....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 705347, member: 18958"] Well. This is uplifting. Kind of him to share. As does my son. With my son, I know that he does it exactly to guilt trip me, to make me suffer, because I do. I cooperate. I oblige him. He has power over me this way. Power to evoke a response. You decide about the motivations of your own son. If he did not have initiative. He would have stopped school a year ago. He is doing it because he has fight in him. My son has not worked in almost 5 years, except for us. Nonetheless, I am glad he came home. (He was gone 5 weeks. He did not want to take a drug test.) I think your son tries to throw you the hot potato. Remember that game? He feels guilt, makes himself suffer, in ways he seems to as yet be unable to control. Except, if he shares his suffering with you, for a moment he feels better. Or is it he is unconsciously punishing you. Because he holds you responsible in some way, for ejecting his brother. You know the truth. You know why you had to do it. You can decide to not accept the hot potato. To say no. If you were able to do this, be able to reclaim your life, and self--you would model this to middle son, that he can do the same. We are getting there, Feeling. The long and winding road. That leads.... [/QUOTE]
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