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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 560654" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Well Payla, in the world in which you and I reside, I would call that a victory. If he wants you to take care of his dog, he can bring the dog to you, if you want it that is. You probably don't want to see where he lives. Or have a friend pick up the dog. Geez, I know exactly what you are saying about steeling yourself for the next chapter. My difficult child is amazingly successful at adapting to the next lowest level ..........when I think the level on the top of that was the lowest possible level I could imagine. But, she lives on that level by her own choices, no one holds her there, that's what I had to come to realize. I can't drag her out kicking and screaming, she doesn't want to do anything to get herself out of where she is. So, what is left, for me, is acceptance. I had to accept her where she is. And, oddly, we're both better off now that I've done that. Little by little he will come to realize you are no longer there and then he will make his own choices and he will not involve you. Getting there for us parents is pretty gruesome at times, but you'll get there. And, so will he. Hang in there, you're doing a really good job every day! (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 560654, member: 13542"] Well Payla, in the world in which you and I reside, I would call that a victory. If he wants you to take care of his dog, he can bring the dog to you, if you want it that is. You probably don't want to see where he lives. Or have a friend pick up the dog. Geez, I know exactly what you are saying about steeling yourself for the next chapter. My difficult child is amazingly successful at adapting to the next lowest level ..........when I think the level on the top of that was the lowest possible level I could imagine. But, she lives on that level by her own choices, no one holds her there, that's what I had to come to realize. I can't drag her out kicking and screaming, she doesn't want to do anything to get herself out of where she is. So, what is left, for me, is acceptance. I had to accept her where she is. And, oddly, we're both better off now that I've done that. Little by little he will come to realize you are no longer there and then he will make his own choices and he will not involve you. Getting there for us parents is pretty gruesome at times, but you'll get there. And, so will he. Hang in there, you're doing a really good job every day! (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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