I posted here back in July I think. I had a tough summer "detaching" from my 33 year old son. I have enabled him for years and he is barely working if at all, just failing as an adult in a major way. It is like ground hog day talking to him, which I do A LOT less than I ever did before. He really ramped up the harassment back in the summer and we got into all kinds of extreme measures, including a no trespassing order. He was full on panic because he was facing homelessness. He ended up staying at various places and his grandparents and the harassment subsided. I was in therapy and got a new cell phone number and got my peace back on weekends. He began calling me at work for gas money etc... and I would usually give in, but ended up getting a restraining order. He calls me anyway now, because I dont have the heart to report him; he will possibly get charged with a felony that will go away in 3 months if he stays out of trouble and this I just cant do. ( possession of trace amountof cocaine) I think if he started the crazy stuff again I would have no problem doing it, but a call or two a week has not gotten me to that point. BUT.... I have fallen back into giving him gas money, rent help, etc... I always believe him when he says how close he is to a job, etc... He has major ADD and man he is handicapped from it. Winter is coming and I dread it. I know I need to detach, and I have to some extent. I just need to find the courage to watch him be homeless in the winter possibly, and I dont have it. I always believe and still do, that he may figure out some kind of life for himself with just "one more bit of help from me" Just had to vent. I feel like I failed at something I worked very hard at for a long time in terms of not detaching yet.