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Fell off the Warrior Mom Wagon. I need help!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Giulia" data-source="post: 533389" data-attributes="member: 14306"><p>I understand your concern. </p><p></p><p>However, I think that if you move on the perspective, you can get great results. </p><p>The idea is not forcing to get her assessed, but <u>making her want</u> to be assessed. Making her want to do what you want. </p><p>Sounds impossible ? Not as much as you may imagine. </p><p></p><p>First, telling her as much as possible that you are concerned on how unwell she appears. Like "I noticed that .... and that .... I am concerned about you. Can I do something for you ?". It may not work right away, but it is a first step.</p><p>Just make her understand that you love her even when she is unstable. </p><p></p><p>Let the door open about talking when she feels unwell. She may mask her disability because she feels ashamed, even in front of you. </p><p>Tell her that if she feels unwell, she can come and tell you. Especially when she says that she feels fine whereas she does not. </p><p>Don't insist but keep the door open for discussion. </p><p>I am sure that she will come earlier or later to tell you that she needs help. </p><p></p><p>In this time, she may be reluctant to see a psychiatrist/therapist. She may fear the stigma. </p><p>In this case, you can help her by comparing with a physical disease, like "if you had diabetes, you wouldn't wonder twice if you need or not to see a doctor". It often helps relieve the feeling of being guilty. </p><p></p><p></p><p>MWM, do whatever you want. Yes, a person needs to learn to ask help. But not all know right away how to and yes, it is not a quick fix. I wish it were, but it is not. </p><p>It is your feelings, your shoes. I acknowledge that we have different values, and that we'll never agree each other. It is just sad we come to such a useless argument. </p><p>Now, I will stop the fight with you. You wish that difficult child finds themselves with difficult children, parents with parents. It is your choice, and I cannot control it. ITOH, it is a shame that we have to put walls each other just because of "parents have to be with parents". I cannot prevent you from having such opinions, and I cannot prevent myself to believe how sad it is to argue on such a peculiar issue (parents have to be with parents and children have to be with children).</p><p>I wish you the best for the future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Giulia, post: 533389, member: 14306"] I understand your concern. However, I think that if you move on the perspective, you can get great results. The idea is not forcing to get her assessed, but [U]making her want[/U] to be assessed. Making her want to do what you want. Sounds impossible ? Not as much as you may imagine. First, telling her as much as possible that you are concerned on how unwell she appears. Like "I noticed that .... and that .... I am concerned about you. Can I do something for you ?". It may not work right away, but it is a first step. Just make her understand that you love her even when she is unstable. Let the door open about talking when she feels unwell. She may mask her disability because she feels ashamed, even in front of you. Tell her that if she feels unwell, she can come and tell you. Especially when she says that she feels fine whereas she does not. Don't insist but keep the door open for discussion. I am sure that she will come earlier or later to tell you that she needs help. In this time, she may be reluctant to see a psychiatrist/therapist. She may fear the stigma. In this case, you can help her by comparing with a physical disease, like "if you had diabetes, you wouldn't wonder twice if you need or not to see a doctor". It often helps relieve the feeling of being guilty. MWM, do whatever you want. Yes, a person needs to learn to ask help. But not all know right away how to and yes, it is not a quick fix. I wish it were, but it is not. It is your feelings, your shoes. I acknowledge that we have different values, and that we'll never agree each other. It is just sad we come to such a useless argument. Now, I will stop the fight with you. You wish that difficult child finds themselves with difficult children, parents with parents. It is your choice, and I cannot control it. ITOH, it is a shame that we have to put walls each other just because of "parents have to be with parents". I cannot prevent you from having such opinions, and I cannot prevent myself to believe how sad it is to argue on such a peculiar issue (parents have to be with parents and children have to be with children). I wish you the best for the future. [/QUOTE]
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