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<blockquote data-quote="daralex" data-source="post: 115571" data-attributes="member: 4467"><p>I have been homeschooling my difficult child since October. There seemed to be a fit thrown everyday or at the least she would moan, whine, and complain to the point I wanted to squeeze her little head off her body ("little" being the operative word, she's 13 and stands at 5'11"!) After reading many of the posts here and doing a little research I think I am finally getting it. </p><p></p><p>I was always just waiting for her to be difficult during the day - it became an expectation. I went into each day just waiting for the conflict, so that by the time it actually happened I was all ready for battle. I am now approaching the situation differently. I am clinging on to my sense of humor and taking each moment at a time. It seems as though me being calm has helped her be calmer too. I still insist she does what needs to be done, but approaching it in a lighter manner. When I see she's had enough or is on the brink of losing it, we pull back and do something else for a few minutes until she can get it together.</p><p></p><p>I have to say this is the first good week we have had since october! Yes, there was an occasional whine - but it was short lived and much less painful. I hope I have the strength to keep it up. I know I am still expecting something to go horribly wrong at some point, but this week gives me hope that I can have a better handle on her behavior - and that so can she.</p><p></p><p>We are developing a behavior contract this weekend (she will have input to this as well). My brother is a shrink and tells me that this will help greatly not only with her understanding of what limits are, but also a way for me to stay consistent when it comes to expectations and discipline. </p><p></p><p>I'm sure I will be a puddle in the corner at some point soon, but I am really trying to embrace the calmness we have had in the house this week. It gives me a little hope!!</p><p>-Dara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="daralex, post: 115571, member: 4467"] I have been homeschooling my difficult child since October. There seemed to be a fit thrown everyday or at the least she would moan, whine, and complain to the point I wanted to squeeze her little head off her body ("little" being the operative word, she's 13 and stands at 5'11"!) After reading many of the posts here and doing a little research I think I am finally getting it. I was always just waiting for her to be difficult during the day - it became an expectation. I went into each day just waiting for the conflict, so that by the time it actually happened I was all ready for battle. I am now approaching the situation differently. I am clinging on to my sense of humor and taking each moment at a time. It seems as though me being calm has helped her be calmer too. I still insist she does what needs to be done, but approaching it in a lighter manner. When I see she's had enough or is on the brink of losing it, we pull back and do something else for a few minutes until she can get it together. I have to say this is the first good week we have had since october! Yes, there was an occasional whine - but it was short lived and much less painful. I hope I have the strength to keep it up. I know I am still expecting something to go horribly wrong at some point, but this week gives me hope that I can have a better handle on her behavior - and that so can she. We are developing a behavior contract this weekend (she will have input to this as well). My brother is a shrink and tells me that this will help greatly not only with her understanding of what limits are, but also a way for me to stay consistent when it comes to expectations and discipline. I'm sure I will be a puddle in the corner at some point soon, but I am really trying to embrace the calmness we have had in the house this week. It gives me a little hope!! -Dara [/QUOTE]
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