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stressbunny
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Hello everyone,
I'm very new here. This is my second post. It has been a tough week. Tonight, my 7yo difficult child 1st grade son, came home with his usual load of homework - an entire Dr. Seuss book to read, a one-page writing assignment, and a math fact project. Realitstically, this would probably take a good 45 minutes to an hour for him to complete with help.
My difficult child is ADHD/ODD/autistic spectrum, plus he has severe apraxia of speech, and he has already been held back a year in school due to his behavioral and developmental issues. He has an IEP.
Anyway, this type of homework comes home every single night. The battle to get him to do this is causing unbearable stress for our whole family. I use prompts, reminders, etc. to prepare difficult child for when we'll work on his homework. I stay calm and firm. But he wants no part of it. By the end of the day, his ADHD stimulant medication is worn off, and his afternoon short-acting dose just isn't as effective as the long-acting daytime medication. So he's completely defiant, out of control, and unwilling to do any of it. He runs around the house screaming and slamming doors, and hits and kicks me if I try to redirect him. Tonight this went on for an hour, and of course, we hadn't even started the homework yet. This is just the preliminary to the main event.
But, I'm thinking that this is crazy! I can't do this any more - period! I don't care if all the other easy child kids at school can sit and do their homework - mine can't! He's out of medication and out of control. I know he needs help with schoolwork, but I need to have a sane household too!
I can't believe that first graders have SO much homework every single night. I feel completely demoralized, exhausted, and basically stressed to the limit.
A lot of people looking in from the outside would say this child needs more discipline, but that won't work - I can guarantee it. No one could reason with him or punish him or give him enough rewards to make him do his homework. He is totally overwhelmed at even the thought of it and simply will not do it, no matter what.
It seems unreasonable to expect an ADHD/ODD/autistic 7-year old to come home and work on schoolwork for 45 minutes every night after trying to survive for seven hours in school all day and after his medication loses effectiveness.
By the way, we aren't able to increase his after-school dosage of stimulant medication because then he can't sleep at night.
Have any of you abandoned the homework battles completely? I would like his IEP modified to prohibit homework assignments. I think most of these "assignments" are resulting from the time he misses in class to go to speech therapy. Aren't 7 hours enough school time for a seven-year-old?
Please help . . . I'm totally at the end of my rope with the meltdowns,
StressBunny
I'm very new here. This is my second post. It has been a tough week. Tonight, my 7yo difficult child 1st grade son, came home with his usual load of homework - an entire Dr. Seuss book to read, a one-page writing assignment, and a math fact project. Realitstically, this would probably take a good 45 minutes to an hour for him to complete with help.
My difficult child is ADHD/ODD/autistic spectrum, plus he has severe apraxia of speech, and he has already been held back a year in school due to his behavioral and developmental issues. He has an IEP.
Anyway, this type of homework comes home every single night. The battle to get him to do this is causing unbearable stress for our whole family. I use prompts, reminders, etc. to prepare difficult child for when we'll work on his homework. I stay calm and firm. But he wants no part of it. By the end of the day, his ADHD stimulant medication is worn off, and his afternoon short-acting dose just isn't as effective as the long-acting daytime medication. So he's completely defiant, out of control, and unwilling to do any of it. He runs around the house screaming and slamming doors, and hits and kicks me if I try to redirect him. Tonight this went on for an hour, and of course, we hadn't even started the homework yet. This is just the preliminary to the main event.
But, I'm thinking that this is crazy! I can't do this any more - period! I don't care if all the other easy child kids at school can sit and do their homework - mine can't! He's out of medication and out of control. I know he needs help with schoolwork, but I need to have a sane household too!
I can't believe that first graders have SO much homework every single night. I feel completely demoralized, exhausted, and basically stressed to the limit.
A lot of people looking in from the outside would say this child needs more discipline, but that won't work - I can guarantee it. No one could reason with him or punish him or give him enough rewards to make him do his homework. He is totally overwhelmed at even the thought of it and simply will not do it, no matter what.
It seems unreasonable to expect an ADHD/ODD/autistic 7-year old to come home and work on schoolwork for 45 minutes every night after trying to survive for seven hours in school all day and after his medication loses effectiveness.
By the way, we aren't able to increase his after-school dosage of stimulant medication because then he can't sleep at night.
Have any of you abandoned the homework battles completely? I would like his IEP modified to prohibit homework assignments. I think most of these "assignments" are resulting from the time he misses in class to go to speech therapy. Aren't 7 hours enough school time for a seven-year-old?
Please help . . . I'm totally at the end of my rope with the meltdowns,
StressBunny