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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 189202" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I hope that both you and gfgII have a better day today. I hate to say this, but it sounds like your dad may not be the one to watch gfgII. I realize that you probably didn't have a choice here, but it sounds to me like <em>this particular </em>escalation had a lot to do with dad's reaction to one of gfgII's friends - not directly related to an action by gfgII.</p><p></p><p>I do agree with the sw who said difficult child needed his space. I have learned with my difficult child that I do have to stop talking, stop threatening, etc., because he is not hearing me. He's hearing what we heard on the old Charlie Brown specials when an adult spoke, "wa waa waa wa". The sound of my voice talking to him is like nails on a blackboard for me. He needs to just be quiet and then he is able to calm himself. At that point consequences can be given - I don't ever give punishments or consequences in the midst of an outburst - it's really counter productive. I do understand though, that many difficult children will spiral, even though they are "fine" at the time, when given consequences for a previous action. </p><p></p><p>I hope things are calmer for all of you today. </p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 189202, member: 805"] I hope that both you and gfgII have a better day today. I hate to say this, but it sounds like your dad may not be the one to watch gfgII. I realize that you probably didn't have a choice here, but it sounds to me like [I]this particular [/I]escalation had a lot to do with dad's reaction to one of gfgII's friends - not directly related to an action by gfgII. I do agree with the sw who said difficult child needed his space. I have learned with my difficult child that I do have to stop talking, stop threatening, etc., because he is not hearing me. He's hearing what we heard on the old Charlie Brown specials when an adult spoke, "wa waa waa wa". The sound of my voice talking to him is like nails on a blackboard for me. He needs to just be quiet and then he is able to calm himself. At that point consequences can be given - I don't ever give punishments or consequences in the midst of an outburst - it's really counter productive. I do understand though, that many difficult children will spiral, even though they are "fine" at the time, when given consequences for a previous action. I hope things are calmer for all of you today. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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