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FOO bad affects on our own children...did it happen?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 674506" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I am all into lonely today anyway, but this is the lonely I mean. I have been thinking so much about the value (or devaluing) our families practiced routinely. <em>How does a mother not attend her child's wedding.</em> <em>(Neither did my parents attend mine.) How</em> <em>does a mother worth of the designation not care for her daughter's child when the birth had been difficult and the daughter needs help. </em></p><p></p><p>I am shocked and shocked by realizing what these things our mothers/ourselves did to us meant.</p><p></p><p>My head is spinning.</p><p></p><p>What hellish reality did we come from, where these kinds of things were acceptable <em>and where we did not understand how stupidly wrong these actions were</em>.</p><p></p><p>You are right, Serenity. Everything is beautifully smooth without them, and was forever totally kinked up with them in the picture. I agree with you there. I am in a place now though where I can see in a way I could not understand me and them and what they taught and what I learned and it just.blows.me.away.</p><p></p><p>So, part of this is that, these days, I am on the other side of believing them.</p><p></p><p>Probably that is why I can appreciate me.</p><p></p><p>It feels like a gift.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 674506, member: 17461"] I am all into lonely today anyway, but this is the lonely I mean. I have been thinking so much about the value (or devaluing) our families practiced routinely. [I]How does a mother not attend her child's wedding.[/I] [I](Neither did my parents attend mine.) How[/I] [I]does a mother worth of the designation not care for her daughter's child when the birth had been difficult and the daughter needs help. [/I] I am shocked and shocked by realizing what these things our mothers/ourselves did to us meant. My head is spinning. What hellish reality did we come from, where these kinds of things were acceptable [I]and where we did not understand how stupidly wrong these actions were[/I]. You are right, Serenity. Everything is beautifully smooth without them, and was forever totally kinked up with them in the picture. I agree with you there. I am in a place now though where I can see in a way I could not understand me and them and what they taught and what I learned and it just.blows.me.away. So, part of this is that, these days, I am on the other side of believing them. Probably that is why I can appreciate me. It feels like a gift. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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