I was lucky. My crazed mother and the rest of my FOO rarely saw my kids so, aside from odd sightings and what they could hear them saying because they spoke loud on my cell phone, they were not affected by them. But I heard a sad story from somebody who comes as part of my post-accident care team. She told me her mother (child's grandmother) has totally screwed up her child who is now on drugs. She is ostracized from t he FOO, but her teen is encouraged to be with grandmother and shun her, the daughter and mother. I don't know for sure if this is 100% true. I barely know this lady. But it made me wonder and I thought perhaps it was a good discussion for this particular board. I feel so grateful that my family of choice is in the loop and knew, during my accident, to keep the nosey haters out of my life and away from me and short on information. If I was so awful before the accident, they needed to stay out of my life after it and my hub and kids were great gatekeepers. But I know it's not like this for all. If nobody answers, I'll know this is not that much of an issue. I hope it isn't. This woman was crying. It sounded very mean-spirited by the rest of her FOO and she sounds like the scapegoat. I never discount stories like this because I was also a scapegoat and still am...only I'm beginning to think it was a good thing.