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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 189535" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Hon, saying that some of what you are seeing is typical teen doesn't negate Wynter's other issues. It just gives you a perspective that at least some of her stuff will go away as she grows up. W's other issues just exacerbate everything else. I know, I've been there done that. What is bad for most 13 YOs is a major tragedy for ours and so on and so forth. Even so, I found the best way to handle at the time was to treat her as I would a typical teen.</p><p> </p><p>Some of that meant my house, my rules. It also meant that I was there to listen, hold her hand, give advice when she asked. That was my job as her mother (and to provide for her basic necessities). She was to do her best to comply with those rules, to actively participate in her health and safety, to do her part in making our house a home. Yes, there were battles and failures but there were also successes. She HATED therapy. She had a choice -- actively participate or discover how miserable her world could really be. After trying out the miserable world for almost a year, she opted to participate. While she did not take medications for her behavior issues, she did have to for medical reasons. She tried to refuse to take them. Since this was a health issue, I had to force her to take them. At one point, it was to take her to the hospital and have them give her a shot.</p><p> </p><p>It's not easy to parent a teen. It's even harder to parent a teen with issues. Sometimes we have to ignore the issues and just pretend we are dealing with a teen. Other times we have to ignore the teen factor. </p><p> </p><p>You need to figure out what is best for you, W and D, not just what is best for W right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 189535, member: 3626"] Hon, saying that some of what you are seeing is typical teen doesn't negate Wynter's other issues. It just gives you a perspective that at least some of her stuff will go away as she grows up. W's other issues just exacerbate everything else. I know, I've been there done that. What is bad for most 13 YOs is a major tragedy for ours and so on and so forth. Even so, I found the best way to handle at the time was to treat her as I would a typical teen. Some of that meant my house, my rules. It also meant that I was there to listen, hold her hand, give advice when she asked. That was my job as her mother (and to provide for her basic necessities). She was to do her best to comply with those rules, to actively participate in her health and safety, to do her part in making our house a home. Yes, there were battles and failures but there were also successes. She HATED therapy. She had a choice -- actively participate or discover how miserable her world could really be. After trying out the miserable world for almost a year, she opted to participate. While she did not take medications for her behavior issues, she did have to for medical reasons. She tried to refuse to take them. Since this was a health issue, I had to force her to take them. At one point, it was to take her to the hospital and have them give her a shot. It's not easy to parent a teen. It's even harder to parent a teen with issues. Sometimes we have to ignore the issues and just pretend we are dealing with a teen. Other times we have to ignore the teen factor. You need to figure out what is best for you, W and D, not just what is best for W right now. [/QUOTE]
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