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<blockquote data-quote="Renea" data-source="post: 617564" data-attributes="member: 13180"><p>Interesting article! I have thought about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) many times with my 10 year old son. But as with everything else, it's hard to place him in that box because some of it definitely fits but so much of the other things don't fit. I had a very healthy pregnancy, he was very much wanted by both me and my husband. We weren't rich but we certainly weren't living in poverty. My son never went through various caregivers. I was a stay at home mom. And my husband and I are still together to this day. He wasn't neglected. He wasn't abused. The only thing that stands out to me is that he did have really bad colic. Reaaallllly bad colic. I think he actually had acid reflux and the doctors just misdiagnosed him. He would cry and cry and cry. He hated being held, not that we didn't hold him, but holding him just seemed to irritate him that much more. I think that being held just added to his overall discomfort. We saw a few different doctors over all of it and tried all the things they wanted us to try, but he never really stopped the marathon crying sessions until he was around six months old. Which led the doctors to say, see, we told you so. It was colic and he has now outgrown it. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> My husband and I were SO frazzled and stressed during that time. And I just never really felt that my son "attached" to us during the first few months, like most babies do. Things were so different with my youngest son. He was a VERY attached baby and has been a easy child all along. </p><p> </p><p>My 10 year old has an Asperger's diagnosis, and that fits him in some ways but not in others. His rages are very scary. He seems to have such a low tolerance for any frustration and his meltdown mode is hard to handle. He does have poor impulse control at times and he definitely has poor peer relationships. He has trouble making and keeping friends. And he definitely has some entitlement issues. He also has food issues. At the same time, he is honest to a fault. He never steals. He loves animals so much and I just can't imagine him hurting one. He hates the thought of blood and gore and can't stand to see it or hear about it. And he does feel VERY guilty about his rages. He absolutely hates that part of himself and he hates that he has caused his family to hurt. He is concerned with my feelings and if I'm having a bad day, he wants to know about it and wants to know how he can help. His therapist says that the fact that he feels that compassion towards people and that he feels bad about his actions is a very important thing. Does that mean she doesn't feel it could be Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) since he seems to feel remorse and thinks of others? I don't know. When he is raging, he isn't thinking of others. So it's hard to not see some of these traits in my son!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Renea, post: 617564, member: 13180"] Interesting article! I have thought about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) many times with my 10 year old son. But as with everything else, it's hard to place him in that box because some of it definitely fits but so much of the other things don't fit. I had a very healthy pregnancy, he was very much wanted by both me and my husband. We weren't rich but we certainly weren't living in poverty. My son never went through various caregivers. I was a stay at home mom. And my husband and I are still together to this day. He wasn't neglected. He wasn't abused. The only thing that stands out to me is that he did have really bad colic. Reaaallllly bad colic. I think he actually had acid reflux and the doctors just misdiagnosed him. He would cry and cry and cry. He hated being held, not that we didn't hold him, but holding him just seemed to irritate him that much more. I think that being held just added to his overall discomfort. We saw a few different doctors over all of it and tried all the things they wanted us to try, but he never really stopped the marathon crying sessions until he was around six months old. Which led the doctors to say, see, we told you so. It was colic and he has now outgrown it. :( My husband and I were SO frazzled and stressed during that time. And I just never really felt that my son "attached" to us during the first few months, like most babies do. Things were so different with my youngest son. He was a VERY attached baby and has been a easy child all along. My 10 year old has an Asperger's diagnosis, and that fits him in some ways but not in others. His rages are very scary. He seems to have such a low tolerance for any frustration and his meltdown mode is hard to handle. He does have poor impulse control at times and he definitely has poor peer relationships. He has trouble making and keeping friends. And he definitely has some entitlement issues. He also has food issues. At the same time, he is honest to a fault. He never steals. He loves animals so much and I just can't imagine him hurting one. He hates the thought of blood and gore and can't stand to see it or hear about it. And he does feel VERY guilty about his rages. He absolutely hates that part of himself and he hates that he has caused his family to hurt. He is concerned with my feelings and if I'm having a bad day, he wants to know about it and wants to know how he can help. His therapist says that the fact that he feels that compassion towards people and that he feels bad about his actions is a very important thing. Does that mean she doesn't feel it could be Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) since he seems to feel remorse and thinks of others? I don't know. When he is raging, he isn't thinking of others. So it's hard to not see some of these traits in my son! [/QUOTE]
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