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<blockquote data-quote="nlwright" data-source="post: 283036" data-attributes="member: 7551"><p>i've been reading here about what your daughter is going through. i myself had "friends" like this (i believe the kids call them "frenemies") when i was 11. there were 2 girls who would make me the butt of all their jokes and pick on me over and over. then i would get upset or frustrated and they would make nice with me for awhile....so then they could continue to pick on me. i was a shy kid with little social experience and did not know how friends were supposed to treat each other. they used to dream up cruel tricks on other kids and then get me to do their dirty work for them. finally one of their mean tricks got me in trouble with the police and my parents put an end to the relationship right then and there. once i was officially not their friend their treatment of me got even worse.</p><p></p><p>i do not regret my experience with these girls. the result was that i grew a back bone when it came to peer pressure and made a decision not to care about their silly antics. when i got to high school i was actually quite popular and i used whatever social power i had to stick up for other kids being bullied or picked on. i was a teen when i learned these valuable, character building lessons. kudos to your daughter for beginning to clue in now. something i learned is that mean girls will always be mean to somebody but it didn't have to be me and eventually the nice kids get sick of it. maybe it might help your daughter to hear stories like mine. it is important that she sees herself as powerful and not as a victim (and from the sounds of things here, so far so good)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlwright, post: 283036, member: 7551"] i've been reading here about what your daughter is going through. i myself had "friends" like this (i believe the kids call them "frenemies") when i was 11. there were 2 girls who would make me the butt of all their jokes and pick on me over and over. then i would get upset or frustrated and they would make nice with me for awhile....so then they could continue to pick on me. i was a shy kid with little social experience and did not know how friends were supposed to treat each other. they used to dream up cruel tricks on other kids and then get me to do their dirty work for them. finally one of their mean tricks got me in trouble with the police and my parents put an end to the relationship right then and there. once i was officially not their friend their treatment of me got even worse. i do not regret my experience with these girls. the result was that i grew a back bone when it came to peer pressure and made a decision not to care about their silly antics. when i got to high school i was actually quite popular and i used whatever social power i had to stick up for other kids being bullied or picked on. i was a teen when i learned these valuable, character building lessons. kudos to your daughter for beginning to clue in now. something i learned is that mean girls will always be mean to somebody but it didn't have to be me and eventually the nice kids get sick of it. maybe it might help your daughter to hear stories like mine. it is important that she sees herself as powerful and not as a victim (and from the sounds of things here, so far so good) [/QUOTE]
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