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<blockquote data-quote="Thinking Outside the Box" data-source="post: 316177" data-attributes="member: 8210"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: seagreen">To all of you who replied to my post........ I hope this finds you all having a "Happy the day after Halloween"!! Too much candy for any of our difficult children? My 3 younger difficult children have spent more time sorting and trading their candy then eating it, so that is good! Thank you so much for all your advice. If any of you second guess yourself like I do (all the time), it is very to hear your opinions. I care very much about my friend because she does have a wonderful heart, she would give anyone the shirt off her back whether she knew them or not. (But, I have to admit, I have secretly wondered if she is this way so she can tell everyone what a great person she is.) The friendship came about thru a bowling league I was asked to join. Her daughter is friends with one of my daughters and is very close with my difficult child 2 that has all of the challenges. I must say that her daughter is very good with my difficult child 2. She is very patient, understanding of his issues, reads to him, tries to teach him things, etc. Her daughter is at my house anywhere from 1-5 times a week, as she loves to hang out with all my younger difficult children. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2e8b57"> My friend requires a lot of energy and energy. I am not a "phone person" and I do not kid when I say she will call me at least 5 times a day all the way to 16 times in one day (that is my highest count so far). She is always asking for favors, rides, etc. for her and her kids. Now, I am not someone who likes to rely on others; I am very self-sufficient and like to be that way, but I know not everyone is like that, so I don't fault her a great deal for being less independent. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2e8b57"> I cannot express enough how dramatic she is. I have never in my 36 years of life seen a person who thinks every splinter needs surgery and 15 hours of sleep is a catnap. Yes, there are a lot of things about her that drive me to insanity. But, I must tell you all that I have a difficult time with people. Friends seem to be a lot of responsibility that I don't have time for. I would love to have friends, but not ones that call every day or need something from me on a daily basis and I don't know if that makes me "unfriendly". </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2e8b57"> You are all right, with everything you said and nobody can "fix" my difficult child 2. If it could be"fixed", does she not think that I would want to "fix" things for him?!!!! I think that I will try talking to her nicely about setting boundaries and that doesn't work, I will have no choice but to end the friendship. I just suck at things like that and it hurts me when I've hurt somebody. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2e8b57"><strong>Quick question</strong>: I personally feel that I can't apologize for the <em>way I feel</em>, but I will apologize if I don't express my feelings the way that I should have. <em>Do you think that I am wrong?</em> I just believe that all people have their own thoughts, feelings, concerns,etc. and they should be able to express them ONE time, anything more then that, then I feel like they are trying to get me to change and do things their way. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2e8b57">Well, I will let you all get back to your day. thank you so much for all of your feedback. It is really amazing how this site makes me feel like I have so much support. It is a wonderful thing. Melinda</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Thinking Outside the Box, post: 316177, member: 8210"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=seagreen]To all of you who replied to my post........ I hope this finds you all having a "Happy the day after Halloween"!! Too much candy for any of our difficult children? My 3 younger difficult children have spent more time sorting and trading their candy then eating it, so that is good! Thank you so much for all your advice. If any of you second guess yourself like I do (all the time), it is very to hear your opinions. I care very much about my friend because she does have a wonderful heart, she would give anyone the shirt off her back whether she knew them or not. (But, I have to admit, I have secretly wondered if she is this way so she can tell everyone what a great person she is.) The friendship came about thru a bowling league I was asked to join. Her daughter is friends with one of my daughters and is very close with my difficult child 2 that has all of the challenges. I must say that her daughter is very good with my difficult child 2. She is very patient, understanding of his issues, reads to him, tries to teach him things, etc. Her daughter is at my house anywhere from 1-5 times a week, as she loves to hang out with all my younger difficult children. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57] My friend requires a lot of energy and energy. I am not a "phone person" and I do not kid when I say she will call me at least 5 times a day all the way to 16 times in one day (that is my highest count so far). She is always asking for favors, rides, etc. for her and her kids. Now, I am not someone who likes to rely on others; I am very self-sufficient and like to be that way, but I know not everyone is like that, so I don't fault her a great deal for being less independent. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57] I cannot express enough how dramatic she is. I have never in my 36 years of life seen a person who thinks every splinter needs surgery and 15 hours of sleep is a catnap. Yes, there are a lot of things about her that drive me to insanity. But, I must tell you all that I have a difficult time with people. Friends seem to be a lot of responsibility that I don't have time for. I would love to have friends, but not ones that call every day or need something from me on a daily basis and I don't know if that makes me "unfriendly". [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57] You are all right, with everything you said and nobody can "fix" my difficult child 2. If it could be"fixed", does she not think that I would want to "fix" things for him?!!!! I think that I will try talking to her nicely about setting boundaries and that doesn't work, I will have no choice but to end the friendship. I just suck at things like that and it hurts me when I've hurt somebody. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57][B]Quick question[/B]: I personally feel that I can't apologize for the [I]way I feel[/I], but I will apologize if I don't express my feelings the way that I should have. [I]Do you think that I am wrong?[/I] I just believe that all people have their own thoughts, feelings, concerns,etc. and they should be able to express them ONE time, anything more then that, then I feel like they are trying to get me to change and do things their way. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2e8b57]Well, I will let you all get back to your day. thank you so much for all of your feedback. It is really amazing how this site makes me feel like I have so much support. It is a wonderful thing. Melinda[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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