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Friend won't lay off MY difficult child's issues
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 316212" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Gosh, I had a friend like that for years. She would do much the same regarding my difficult child. Her son turned out very well, however I would have to say from where I sit, the kid did it on his own. As she spent her energy trying to tell me what to do/say etc with my difficult child, she ridiculed her son, openly told him he would never amount to anything, begrudged him all of his success over the years, the names she would openly call him (in front of her friends, family and her sons friends) I can't type here. She also would do the same about the last relationship I was in. She has a S/O but bashes him (behind his back, poor guy, he's a great guy, single dad raising his 2 boys, he's a catch) and refuses to live with him, marry him etc. Then she couldn't pretend he would treat her badly i guess. But she would tell ME to leave my previous S/O. Then she'd tell me that I don't know what I have, what would I ever do if I left him, why WOULD I ever leave him? Then when we did part ways, she was there pointing the finger telling me how I"d made the right choice. Then when I met my now S/O, she started again. On and on she would go. </p><p>I ended the friendship. Just stopped taking her calls. When she finally did get through to me I was honest and told her that we are very different people and I can't be around what i consider to be negative in spite of the things that drew her into my friendship circle initially.</p><p>It sounds like you value your friend but for this problem. I am sorry she's blind to this affecting you. Maybe no more talking about your difficult child's issues with her, rather do so with other friends or family? I hope you figure something out. Urgh!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 316212, member: 4264"] Gosh, I had a friend like that for years. She would do much the same regarding my difficult child. Her son turned out very well, however I would have to say from where I sit, the kid did it on his own. As she spent her energy trying to tell me what to do/say etc with my difficult child, she ridiculed her son, openly told him he would never amount to anything, begrudged him all of his success over the years, the names she would openly call him (in front of her friends, family and her sons friends) I can't type here. She also would do the same about the last relationship I was in. She has a S/O but bashes him (behind his back, poor guy, he's a great guy, single dad raising his 2 boys, he's a catch) and refuses to live with him, marry him etc. Then she couldn't pretend he would treat her badly i guess. But she would tell ME to leave my previous S/O. Then she'd tell me that I don't know what I have, what would I ever do if I left him, why WOULD I ever leave him? Then when we did part ways, she was there pointing the finger telling me how I"d made the right choice. Then when I met my now S/O, she started again. On and on she would go. I ended the friendship. Just stopped taking her calls. When she finally did get through to me I was honest and told her that we are very different people and I can't be around what i consider to be negative in spite of the things that drew her into my friendship circle initially. It sounds like you value your friend but for this problem. I am sorry she's blind to this affecting you. Maybe no more talking about your difficult child's issues with her, rather do so with other friends or family? I hope you figure something out. Urgh! [/QUOTE]
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