SONS GONE WILD
Moms goin' crazy
Hello everyone. I am returning to this site after many years in the hope of getting some advice. My 14 yo daughter started 8th grade/high school this year. She has a classmate who went to grammar school with her who's been a friend on and off for many years. I am also pretty close friends with her mom. They carpool together. The friend I'll call V I'm told has anxiety issues and is under professional treatment. The girls are in the same lunch group and my daughter E has made lots of new friends. V made a few friends but continues to follow my daughter E around and is driving her crazy. I know a lot of this may sound petty but when u r 14 and don't want someone shadowing you all the time I'm sure it's annoying. E says the other girls in the lunch group don't really like V and while they are not mean to her they really don't want to hang out with her. They say she is very "random" with things she says and her hair is always messy and often " disgusting" - E tried to mention this nicely to V but she says she doesn't care. I told V's mom about the hair too and she blew it off. (I know others probably go to school the same way - just thinking if V aggravates them they focus on that) V's mom often has asked for E to help V fit in and she tried for a while but it is not working. Because of my friendship with V's mother I am in a very difficult position. E does things with other girls outside of school but they never include V even if it's a school function after hours. I feel so bad. I continually ask E how V is and she resents me for it. She feels bad too but can't help that she wants to have a life away from V and can't seem to get away. V has a few other friends at school but doesn't "hang out" with them...she just continues to piggy back on E and hang with her and her friends. Sorry this is so long. Any words of advice ??