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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 604410" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">Don't be so hard on yourself. Parenting our difficult children is not a job for the faint-hearted.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">My son, who will be 18 in about 10 days, didn't start dealing with his frustration in a truly positive way until he was pushed and challenged to really understand. Around middle school I began to back away from the egg shell walking that consumed me in elementary school (you know, being afraid to make him mad or frustrated so the peace could be kept or the status quo wasn't disturbed). I began to push him a little when I knew his mood was good - make him work for it. It was kinda like a combination of sink or swim and life skills class!</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">Our short-fused difficult children are not always going to have us around to soothe the savage beast. By making sure they understand how it feels when the frustration and/or anxiety are building is really important. Knowing what to do to quell it is even more important. At my son's middle and high school, he was/is allowed a "pass" <u>without consequence</u> to leave class for a short period of time and go somewhere (his safe place: library or nurse's office) to pull himself together.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">We know that trying to reason with an increasingly frustrated difficult child is so counterproductive. The self-requested time out really put the ball in his court which is the goal for our kids.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">Sharon</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 604410, member: 805"] [SIZE=3][FONT=comic sans ms]Don't be so hard on yourself. Parenting our difficult children is not a job for the faint-hearted.[/FONT] [FONT=comic sans ms]My son, who will be 18 in about 10 days, didn't start dealing with his frustration in a truly positive way until he was pushed and challenged to really understand. Around middle school I began to back away from the egg shell walking that consumed me in elementary school (you know, being afraid to make him mad or frustrated so the peace could be kept or the status quo wasn't disturbed). I began to push him a little when I knew his mood was good - make him work for it. It was kinda like a combination of sink or swim and life skills class! Our short-fused difficult children are not always going to have us around to soothe the savage beast. By making sure they understand how it feels when the frustration and/or anxiety are building is really important. Knowing what to do to quell it is even more important. At my son's middle and high school, he was/is allowed a "pass" [U]without consequence[/U] to leave class for a short period of time and go somewhere (his safe place: library or nurse's office) to pull himself together. We know that trying to reason with an increasingly frustrated difficult child is so counterproductive. The self-requested time out really put the ball in his court which is the goal for our kids. Sharon [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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