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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 442766" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You know what Rainbird? You said everything you need to say in your last sentence - I do not need people in my life that treat me like POOP. This would include parents, spouses, children, friends, bosses, besties, lovers, the guy at the toll booth, grocery clerks, bankers, hair salon doooers (I forget what the professional name is), pet shop people, police officers, ice cream scoopers, cashiers at the mall, people that put flyers on your car windshield when you don't want flyers on your winshield, oh and this weekend there was a girl that followed me out of Staples of all places telling me she was with the DARE program and selling windshields -I just had a windshiled replaced on my car about 6 months ago (I have comprehensive because I drive up and down Hwy. 77 and we have gravel pits here and gravel trucks are common) So i said "Um No thank you I just had my windshield replaced I have comp." and she followed me anyway to my 20 year old car. Right? WRong - BAD mistake. BAD mistake. She got the Star lesson on WHY YOU should NOT question me when I say NO, and why you should not treat me like a child when I say NO THANK YOU I have gotten a replacement and WHY I'm not a liar - and then got THAT speech that NOT everyone in the world treats you like POOP." I mean what I say, I say what I mean and when I say "I do not want to donate to the DARE program and I do NOT want a windshield - IIIII mean it. My son is dead - he's dead because of DRUGS I donated for years to the DARE program - I don't care to make anymore DONATIONS TO the DARE program, that's really NONE of your business but since you asked me if I wanted a windshield and I said NO thank you, I just got one not too long ago - and you FOLLOWED me to my car like I was a child and a liar - ANYWAY NOW you are going to stand here and listen to me for the next fifteen minutes - DO NOT WALK AWAY FROM ME _ YOU ARE THE ONE THAT WALKED OVER HERE AND TOOK UP MY TIME _ AND TREATED ME LIKE POOP _ and belive me I was NOT saying the POOP word...I really was frustrated with this woman. So yeah you are right Rainbird - Do not allow people in your world to treat you like **** and when they do? No need to try to reconcile.....</p><p></p><p></p><p>With regards to your daughter? Since she's not trying to sell you a windshield or get you to donate to the DARE program? My thoughts are simple? Mistakes are made because people are human. She needs to take a healthy dose of GROW UP and come to terms with the fact that her Mother is NOT perfect. When will that be? I have no idea. Suppose right now while Daddy Dearest is shoving perfection (Oh is that a lame term) in her face...More like Lincolns in her face and by the way - YOUR face honey.....not anything else, because if you think about it? If he had NO money? WHAT could he possibly offer her at this point? WHAT would he be shoving in her face then? Fatherly advice? Direction? Morals? When you replace all that wisdom with money? It's a whole lot easier for YOU the Mom to sit back and say "You know what? Yup it hurts that he can buy my kid - but .....in the long run - the cash will run out, and when it does? What's left? I hope loyalty. For his sake FROM her - because at least that means YOU raised her to be a decent person. </p><p></p><p>In the mean time? Are you going to miss her? You bet. Is that tough? Yup. Does it inhale violently? ABSOLUTELY. Is there anything you can do about it while they are plotting to be besties? (makes quirkly mouth noise that sounds like a man rear noise) Probably not - she's a teen - he's a child and you are about the only one with an ounce of sense and YOU have Bi-polar - do you see the humor in that? Lord I do. The crazy one is the only one with sense at this point. ((I say that lovingly because a lot of my besties are BiPolar (BP)) </p><p></p><p></p><p>You know your kid - if you think a good lunch with a sincere apology for your former ridicuolus behavior WITHOUT excuses would help and then one of those - "Well here's the deal - I made a mistake, I'm human, I am apologizing, and I'm sorry....I can't say much more other than I'm working hard to be a better person for myself and our relationship. I'd like to have a relationship with you if you'd like - that would be great, but I also know -like you - I won't be treated like Poop....so I'm leaving the ball in your court. If you want to be friends - it's going to be up to you to call me and make the next move. I love you. I want a relationship .......I'll be here Then get up, hug her if she'll let you or give her a kiss on the cheek - then leave. Let it be. Then go on about your life and ENJOY it. </p><p></p><p>That's about what I did. I went on - got on with my life - told my son I wanted him in it - but not if it was going to kill me - and then got on with my life. He went on to find his WONDERFUL DADDY DISNEY who as it turns out is SATAN....but that's another story......and I didn't interfere....I have never said a word TO my son even when I got calls that said very derrogatory things that I would have LOVED to have tap danced over and agreed about. I just said things like "OH, or You'll figure it out." and trust me - ALL of me wanted to scream - YES YES he IS A FIRST RATE BUNGHOLIO....I TOLD YOU SO....HE IS THE DEVIL INCARNATE...IS IS a (FILL IN THE BLANK) but I just said "OH wow - you don't say?" and bit so much of my tongue off it's a wonder I can seal envelopes at all. </p><p></p><p>As far as revenge or anything like that? nope - If that's what it's all about? then you still care too much and need therapy - Just my .02 - When you feel zero about him and what he's doing? Then you've moved on. He doesn't count and he's nothing to you. Then your daughter will be like - WOW look at Mom been through all that and moved on. That's cool. She's got a life.......and she won't worry about you and will know you are settled and happy and will get on with her own life too. It's a great example to set for a kid. Especially a daughter. </p><p></p><p>Hope this helps - Glad you're here. And FWIW - kids LOVE to play monkey in the middle to get as much as they can - so be aware - and don't eat too many bananas.....</p><p></p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 442766, member: 4964"] You know what Rainbird? You said everything you need to say in your last sentence - I do not need people in my life that treat me like POOP. This would include parents, spouses, children, friends, bosses, besties, lovers, the guy at the toll booth, grocery clerks, bankers, hair salon doooers (I forget what the professional name is), pet shop people, police officers, ice cream scoopers, cashiers at the mall, people that put flyers on your car windshield when you don't want flyers on your winshield, oh and this weekend there was a girl that followed me out of Staples of all places telling me she was with the DARE program and selling windshields -I just had a windshiled replaced on my car about 6 months ago (I have comprehensive because I drive up and down Hwy. 77 and we have gravel pits here and gravel trucks are common) So i said "Um No thank you I just had my windshield replaced I have comp." and she followed me anyway to my 20 year old car. Right? WRong - BAD mistake. BAD mistake. She got the Star lesson on WHY YOU should NOT question me when I say NO, and why you should not treat me like a child when I say NO THANK YOU I have gotten a replacement and WHY I'm not a liar - and then got THAT speech that NOT everyone in the world treats you like POOP." I mean what I say, I say what I mean and when I say "I do not want to donate to the DARE program and I do NOT want a windshield - IIIII mean it. My son is dead - he's dead because of DRUGS I donated for years to the DARE program - I don't care to make anymore DONATIONS TO the DARE program, that's really NONE of your business but since you asked me if I wanted a windshield and I said NO thank you, I just got one not too long ago - and you FOLLOWED me to my car like I was a child and a liar - ANYWAY NOW you are going to stand here and listen to me for the next fifteen minutes - DO NOT WALK AWAY FROM ME _ YOU ARE THE ONE THAT WALKED OVER HERE AND TOOK UP MY TIME _ AND TREATED ME LIKE POOP _ and belive me I was NOT saying the POOP word...I really was frustrated with this woman. So yeah you are right Rainbird - Do not allow people in your world to treat you like **** and when they do? No need to try to reconcile..... With regards to your daughter? Since she's not trying to sell you a windshield or get you to donate to the DARE program? My thoughts are simple? Mistakes are made because people are human. She needs to take a healthy dose of GROW UP and come to terms with the fact that her Mother is NOT perfect. When will that be? I have no idea. Suppose right now while Daddy Dearest is shoving perfection (Oh is that a lame term) in her face...More like Lincolns in her face and by the way - YOUR face honey.....not anything else, because if you think about it? If he had NO money? WHAT could he possibly offer her at this point? WHAT would he be shoving in her face then? Fatherly advice? Direction? Morals? When you replace all that wisdom with money? It's a whole lot easier for YOU the Mom to sit back and say "You know what? Yup it hurts that he can buy my kid - but .....in the long run - the cash will run out, and when it does? What's left? I hope loyalty. For his sake FROM her - because at least that means YOU raised her to be a decent person. In the mean time? Are you going to miss her? You bet. Is that tough? Yup. Does it inhale violently? ABSOLUTELY. Is there anything you can do about it while they are plotting to be besties? (makes quirkly mouth noise that sounds like a man rear noise) Probably not - she's a teen - he's a child and you are about the only one with an ounce of sense and YOU have Bi-polar - do you see the humor in that? Lord I do. The crazy one is the only one with sense at this point. ((I say that lovingly because a lot of my besties are BiPolar (BP)) You know your kid - if you think a good lunch with a sincere apology for your former ridicuolus behavior WITHOUT excuses would help and then one of those - "Well here's the deal - I made a mistake, I'm human, I am apologizing, and I'm sorry....I can't say much more other than I'm working hard to be a better person for myself and our relationship. I'd like to have a relationship with you if you'd like - that would be great, but I also know -like you - I won't be treated like Poop....so I'm leaving the ball in your court. If you want to be friends - it's going to be up to you to call me and make the next move. I love you. I want a relationship .......I'll be here Then get up, hug her if she'll let you or give her a kiss on the cheek - then leave. Let it be. Then go on about your life and ENJOY it. That's about what I did. I went on - got on with my life - told my son I wanted him in it - but not if it was going to kill me - and then got on with my life. He went on to find his WONDERFUL DADDY DISNEY who as it turns out is SATAN....but that's another story......and I didn't interfere....I have never said a word TO my son even when I got calls that said very derrogatory things that I would have LOVED to have tap danced over and agreed about. I just said things like "OH, or You'll figure it out." and trust me - ALL of me wanted to scream - YES YES he IS A FIRST RATE BUNGHOLIO....I TOLD YOU SO....HE IS THE DEVIL INCARNATE...IS IS a (FILL IN THE BLANK) but I just said "OH wow - you don't say?" and bit so much of my tongue off it's a wonder I can seal envelopes at all. As far as revenge or anything like that? nope - If that's what it's all about? then you still care too much and need therapy - Just my .02 - When you feel zero about him and what he's doing? Then you've moved on. He doesn't count and he's nothing to you. Then your daughter will be like - WOW look at Mom been through all that and moved on. That's cool. She's got a life.......and she won't worry about you and will know you are settled and happy and will get on with her own life too. It's a great example to set for a kid. Especially a daughter. Hope this helps - Glad you're here. And FWIW - kids LOVE to play monkey in the middle to get as much as they can - so be aware - and don't eat too many bananas..... Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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