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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 419649" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>klmno, I agree with you that society plays a BIG part in this too. Somewhere in the last couple of decades we have managed to take all authority away from the parents and empowered the children to the point that NOBODY has any authority over them. And yes, the court system has played a big part in this too. The parents are held responsible for the childs actions but then are made powerless to do anything about it. </p><p> </p><p>When I was a kid, you accepted that your parents, the school, and law enforcement agencies had authority over you until you were old enough and mature enough and responsible enough to go out on your own. You might not have liked it but you had to accept it because those people had the power to HURT you if you didn't! But now that authority has been taken away from them and the children are worse off for it. Our parents and teachers were strict and held us accountable for our actions and this was NOT a bad thing. We learned respect and responsibility and most of us were not coddled and showered with material things - if you wanted these things you were expected to work for them. </p><p> </p><p>Do any of you remember the writer, Lewis Grizzard? Sadly, he died several years ago. He was the wonderfully funny Atlanta-based newspaper columnist whose daily essays painted a perfect picture of what life was like for kids of my generation. He was the same age as I was, raised very much the same way I was, went to similar schools, etc. There were several books published that are compilations of his daily newspaper columns and the titles were as good as the articles. My all time-favorite was called, <em>"Who does my butt belong to now?"</em> In this one, he talks about how he was always accountable to <em>someone</em> all of his life. First he was under the complete authority of his parents and was expected to respect and obey them. They were the parents and he was the kid. Then, when he started school, his mother turned over a portion of that authority to the teachers in his school, who also demanded respect and held him accountable. You could disagree if you wanted to but you did not disrespect these people because they could and would make you regret it! After he got out of school, he went to college - same thing. Then he joined the Army - no question there! Then he got a job, then he got married ... but he managed to make all of this <em>funny</em>! I don't remember now which of his books this column appeared in, but if you can ever find it, it's very enlightening and shows just how much things have changed in the last few generations, and not for the better either!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 419649, member: 1883"] klmno, I agree with you that society plays a BIG part in this too. Somewhere in the last couple of decades we have managed to take all authority away from the parents and empowered the children to the point that NOBODY has any authority over them. And yes, the court system has played a big part in this too. The parents are held responsible for the childs actions but then are made powerless to do anything about it. When I was a kid, you accepted that your parents, the school, and law enforcement agencies had authority over you until you were old enough and mature enough and responsible enough to go out on your own. You might not have liked it but you had to accept it because those people had the power to HURT you if you didn't! But now that authority has been taken away from them and the children are worse off for it. Our parents and teachers were strict and held us accountable for our actions and this was NOT a bad thing. We learned respect and responsibility and most of us were not coddled and showered with material things - if you wanted these things you were expected to work for them. Do any of you remember the writer, Lewis Grizzard? Sadly, he died several years ago. He was the wonderfully funny Atlanta-based newspaper columnist whose daily essays painted a perfect picture of what life was like for kids of my generation. He was the same age as I was, raised very much the same way I was, went to similar schools, etc. There were several books published that are compilations of his daily newspaper columns and the titles were as good as the articles. My all time-favorite was called, [I]"Who does my butt belong to now?"[/I] In this one, he talks about how he was always accountable to [I]someone[/I] all of his life. First he was under the complete authority of his parents and was expected to respect and obey them. They were the parents and he was the kid. Then, when he started school, his mother turned over a portion of that authority to the teachers in his school, who also demanded respect and held him accountable. You could disagree if you wanted to but you did not disrespect these people because they could and would make you regret it! After he got out of school, he went to college - same thing. Then he joined the Army - no question there! Then he got a job, then he got married ... but he managed to make all of this [I]funny[/I]! I don't remember now which of his books this column appeared in, but if you can ever find it, it's very enlightening and shows just how much things have changed in the last few generations, and not for the better either! [/QUOTE]
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