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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 627263" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Absolutely. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Absolutely. And they are survivors. I have learned that over time. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Absolutely. Great words, MWM. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And he's not the precious little 2 year old in the frame in your living room. Not anymore. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That is good. Crying is always good and necessary. It keeps our hearts soft and our emotional health clean. Keep crying when you need to. Don't bottle it up. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>My son has been in jail some 8 or 9 times. I have learned that what he is usually thinking is how to beat it. How to negotiate his way out. Not about change. That's another reason I stay away. I don't want to sit and hear all of that. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sweet! Go get it. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Absolutely. I have to see the talk walked. I don't believe the talk anymore. Sustained change will have to be seen and believed by ME. </p><p></p><p>Some definitions of codependency: </p><p></p><p>excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.</p><p></p><p>another: </p><p></p><p><strong>Codependency</strong> is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation" target="_blank">manipulated</a> by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism" target="_blank">narcissism</a> or <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drug_addiction" target="_blank">drug addiction</a>); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another.<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-1" target="_blank">[1]</a> It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2" target="_blank">[2]</a> Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2" target="_blank">[2]</a> Codependency may also be characterized by <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial" target="_blank">denial</a>, low <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem" target="_blank">self-esteem</a>, excessive <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compliance_%28psychology%29" target="_blank">compliance</a>, or <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self_control" target="_blank">control</a> patterns.<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2" target="_blank">[2]</a> <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissists" target="_blank">Narcissists</a> are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.</p><p></p><p>Yep this was me. If he was sad, I was sad. If he was in trouble I was in trouble. When he said I'm going to change, I hung on every word. </p><p></p><p>No more.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you today, 4. Keep showing up. Keep talking. Keep writing. Keep crying. It is a day by day thing, recovery. Keep moving forward. We're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 627263, member: 17542"] Absolutely. Absolutely. And they are survivors. I have learned that over time. Absolutely. Great words, MWM. And he's not the precious little 2 year old in the frame in your living room. Not anymore. That is good. Crying is always good and necessary. It keeps our hearts soft and our emotional health clean. Keep crying when you need to. Don't bottle it up. My son has been in jail some 8 or 9 times. I have learned that what he is usually thinking is how to beat it. How to negotiate his way out. Not about change. That's another reason I stay away. I don't want to sit and hear all of that. Sweet! Go get it. Absolutely. I have to see the talk walked. I don't believe the talk anymore. Sustained change will have to be seen and believed by ME. Some definitions of codependency: excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction. another: [B]Codependency[/B] is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation']manipulated[/URL] by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism']narcissism[/URL] or [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drug_addiction']drug addiction[/URL]); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another.[URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-1'][1][/URL] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2'][2][/URL] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2'][2][/URL] Codependency may also be characterized by [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial']denial[/URL], low [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem']self-esteem[/URL], excessive [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compliance_%28psychology%29']compliance[/URL], or [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self_control']control[/URL] patterns.[URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#cite_note-patterns-2'][2][/URL] [URL='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissists']Narcissists[/URL] are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent. Yep this was me. If he was sad, I was sad. If he was in trouble I was in trouble. When he said I'm going to change, I hung on every word. No more. Hugs to you today, 4. Keep showing up. Keep talking. Keep writing. Keep crying. It is a day by day thing, recovery. Keep moving forward. We're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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