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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 199885" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>That was a very nice note Witz. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> You're right, nobody knows what kind of life you lived or what kind of people your parents are or were. What we do know is that in this instance and others we have read about, is that you are conducting yourself in an honorable way.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I were discussing our grandson and our difficult child daughter last night. He is extremely angry with our daughter and the way things have ended up, to the point of disowning her. Those strong emotions upset me greatly. I hate seeing him like this. On one hand, I understand, I'm living the same thing too. On the other hand, at this point in my life, I refuse to live my life in an angry, spiteful way. </p><p></p><p>I can control ME only. I can chose to involve myself negatively in family situations that will never resolve themselves OR, I can chose to involve myself in less than perfect family situations that I chose to conduct myself with grace and honor. It's not that I am excusing others bad behavior or the past, it's that I'm consciously making a choice to live my life a certain way without participating all the nastiness that is.</p><p></p><p>My husband is still processing last nights enlightenment. He did calm down, but I don't know if he is ready to let go of the hurt and disappointment and take control of his own emotions yet. We all come to that point at different times, he is an honorable man, so I know he'll get there.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 199885, member: 30"] That was a very nice note Witz. :) You're right, nobody knows what kind of life you lived or what kind of people your parents are or were. What we do know is that in this instance and others we have read about, is that you are conducting yourself in an honorable way. My husband and I were discussing our grandson and our difficult child daughter last night. He is extremely angry with our daughter and the way things have ended up, to the point of disowning her. Those strong emotions upset me greatly. I hate seeing him like this. On one hand, I understand, I'm living the same thing too. On the other hand, at this point in my life, I refuse to live my life in an angry, spiteful way. I can control ME only. I can chose to involve myself negatively in family situations that will never resolve themselves OR, I can chose to involve myself in less than perfect family situations that I chose to conduct myself with grace and honor. It's not that I am excusing others bad behavior or the past, it's that I'm consciously making a choice to live my life a certain way without participating all the nastiness that is. My husband is still processing last nights enlightenment. He did calm down, but I don't know if he is ready to let go of the hurt and disappointment and take control of his own emotions yet. We all come to that point at different times, he is an honorable man, so I know he'll get there. Hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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