Hi,
Our difficult child had tantrums in school in K and first grade. She is now entering 6th. Tantrums continue at home and elsewhere but not at school. At the start of 2nd grade she was evaluated for an IEP and it was determined that since her tantrums ceased at school it was not warranted.
A major issue now is getting her to school. Last year we had multiple morning a week where there is a major meltdown at home in the morning and she misses the bus. We then wind up driving her to school. She is often crying and needs to collect herself in the parking lot. (She gets very panicky about going in if someone can detect she had been crying). The principal is somewhat aware of the situation. She called my cell once as I sat in the parking lot and checks in with difficult child during the day when difficult child is dropped off instead of coming by bus and has given difficult child little rewards for going on to have a good day. difficult child does fine once we get her to school. difficult child is also in a looping class and so will have the same teacher as last year, which I am hoping will help with her school anxiety issues.
So I feel the school is willing to work with us. But they dont really know how much of struggle it really is get her to school and a year from now she will be going to a new school and I dont know if I need to have something formal in place. Last year we did get her to go to school each time but it really got bad with yelling on all sides, trying to physically carry her to a car....just horrible mornings. We are working with therapist on new strategies.
So is school refusal an issue for the school or only the parents?
Thanks for any advice
Our difficult child had tantrums in school in K and first grade. She is now entering 6th. Tantrums continue at home and elsewhere but not at school. At the start of 2nd grade she was evaluated for an IEP and it was determined that since her tantrums ceased at school it was not warranted.
A major issue now is getting her to school. Last year we had multiple morning a week where there is a major meltdown at home in the morning and she misses the bus. We then wind up driving her to school. She is often crying and needs to collect herself in the parking lot. (She gets very panicky about going in if someone can detect she had been crying). The principal is somewhat aware of the situation. She called my cell once as I sat in the parking lot and checks in with difficult child during the day when difficult child is dropped off instead of coming by bus and has given difficult child little rewards for going on to have a good day. difficult child does fine once we get her to school. difficult child is also in a looping class and so will have the same teacher as last year, which I am hoping will help with her school anxiety issues.
So I feel the school is willing to work with us. But they dont really know how much of struggle it really is get her to school and a year from now she will be going to a new school and I dont know if I need to have something formal in place. Last year we did get her to go to school each time but it really got bad with yelling on all sides, trying to physically carry her to a car....just horrible mornings. We are working with therapist on new strategies.
So is school refusal an issue for the school or only the parents?
Thanks for any advice