Tiapet
Old Hand
So Ms Emo is involved in a pretty big mess at this moment, although I'm pretty sure nothing is going to happen to her it seems.
She has this friend from online that lives quite a few states away. Another difficult child who lives in a very dysfunctional family (to say the least). This child has been searching for ways to get away from her home for some time now and unfortunately keeps having relationships, serious ones quickly, in hopes that is the way (her thinking anyway).
So tonight my difficult child gets a call about an hour ago. Turns out is was a deputy looking for information about this girl and her boyfriend and if my daughter knew anything about their where abouts. My difficult child says no (and she really doesn't) but what she failed to tell HIM at the time is she knew what she was planning!
Next thing she gets is a text from the boyfriend's cell. She replied to it all freaking out asking about her friend and what the ****** is going on yada yada. Turns out it wasn't her boyfriend but his mother!
You see this girl had told my difficult child on Tuesday she was packing and was going to leave with this guy. That she was wiping out everything so no one knew anything and she wouldn't tell my difficult child where she was going so she couldn't get in trouble. The only thing she did tell mine is that the marriage laws looked good this way (our state). I have since checked them and all the states in a big circle from the girls state around and even the boyfriend ex state he lived in. No where can they get married without parental consent as she is 16 and he is 19. What they heck were they thinking?
Anyway, the boyfriend's mom continued to text back and forth with my difficult child as she relayed all the information she knew now about the situation. The mom said she understands that they want to be together and that she just wants to make sure they are all alright and get the girl back home (of course). That they want it taken care of before it's too late because the boyfriend is looking at facing 20 years for this now! (I'm assuming kidnapping and crossing state lines would be the reason)
Dear God! What was my difficult child thinking? I told her in no uncertain terms that she knew this was above her head long before this as the girl was struggling and she should have come to me. She would tell me pieces of things but refused to tell me so much out of loyalty.
I told her I hope that this has taught her a very very big lesson now. She can't do these things, loyalty or not that sometimes things need to be handled or discussed with adults with more experience. I just hope there is no trouble she can get in. She didn't do anything in this, honestly, and gave up all she knows (which isn't much). She was WRONG to not tell it all to deputy at first that is for sure (the bit about them leaving on Tuesday).
I know difficult child is very worried herself as the girl said they'd have the boyfriend's cell phone and she'd call the next day or so (that was Tuesday) and she hasn't at all. The girl doesn't have her own cell. You have to realize that this girl talks to my difficult child daily, constantly so this is WAAAAAY out of character.
HECK I"M WORRIED FOR GIRL AND MINE!!! She only knew this guy she took off with for about a week or so, so I'm told and she is supposedly soooo inlove with him (she falls for every huy like this) and she wants to marry him? Thankfully he wasn't met online but he was met at some band/concert thing (still don't know all and will keep plugging away for details).
HELP!
She has this friend from online that lives quite a few states away. Another difficult child who lives in a very dysfunctional family (to say the least). This child has been searching for ways to get away from her home for some time now and unfortunately keeps having relationships, serious ones quickly, in hopes that is the way (her thinking anyway).
So tonight my difficult child gets a call about an hour ago. Turns out is was a deputy looking for information about this girl and her boyfriend and if my daughter knew anything about their where abouts. My difficult child says no (and she really doesn't) but what she failed to tell HIM at the time is she knew what she was planning!
Next thing she gets is a text from the boyfriend's cell. She replied to it all freaking out asking about her friend and what the ****** is going on yada yada. Turns out it wasn't her boyfriend but his mother!
You see this girl had told my difficult child on Tuesday she was packing and was going to leave with this guy. That she was wiping out everything so no one knew anything and she wouldn't tell my difficult child where she was going so she couldn't get in trouble. The only thing she did tell mine is that the marriage laws looked good this way (our state). I have since checked them and all the states in a big circle from the girls state around and even the boyfriend ex state he lived in. No where can they get married without parental consent as she is 16 and he is 19. What they heck were they thinking?
Anyway, the boyfriend's mom continued to text back and forth with my difficult child as she relayed all the information she knew now about the situation. The mom said she understands that they want to be together and that she just wants to make sure they are all alright and get the girl back home (of course). That they want it taken care of before it's too late because the boyfriend is looking at facing 20 years for this now! (I'm assuming kidnapping and crossing state lines would be the reason)
Dear God! What was my difficult child thinking? I told her in no uncertain terms that she knew this was above her head long before this as the girl was struggling and she should have come to me. She would tell me pieces of things but refused to tell me so much out of loyalty.
I told her I hope that this has taught her a very very big lesson now. She can't do these things, loyalty or not that sometimes things need to be handled or discussed with adults with more experience. I just hope there is no trouble she can get in. She didn't do anything in this, honestly, and gave up all she knows (which isn't much). She was WRONG to not tell it all to deputy at first that is for sure (the bit about them leaving on Tuesday).
I know difficult child is very worried herself as the girl said they'd have the boyfriend's cell phone and she'd call the next day or so (that was Tuesday) and she hasn't at all. The girl doesn't have her own cell. You have to realize that this girl talks to my difficult child daily, constantly so this is WAAAAAY out of character.
HECK I"M WORRIED FOR GIRL AND MINE!!! She only knew this guy she took off with for about a week or so, so I'm told and she is supposedly soooo inlove with him (she falls for every huy like this) and she wants to marry him? Thankfully he wasn't met online but he was met at some band/concert thing (still don't know all and will keep plugging away for details).
HELP!