I read the posts, and then had to go and think about it for a little bit. I think we are given what we are given to make us grow, and once we have accepted this challenge, it is our responsibility to help others to grow. This is where the free will comes into play. We can choose not to accept the challenge and the responsibilities that go along with it, but then our lives may not be as rich and fulfilling as God would like them to be.
Although my life would certainly be easier if I did not have a difficult child, or a damaged knee, assorted family problems, money worries, etc., I don't know that easier would be better. The more we experience, the better equipped we are to understand, empathize, and offer help.
I'm reminded of a childrens' ministry seminar I attended last year. It seemed to me that many of the women there felt that their ministry opportunities began and ended Sunday mornings, and I disagree with that. As a substitute teacher, I don't know the family situations of these kids, but I know that I may be the first smiling adult face they've seen that day. The prize pencil I hand out may be the first thing they've been awarded that month. The applause I give them for a job well done may be the first positive thing they've heard that year. If my life had been easier, I might not be able to applaud the little things, because I wouldn't understand how much they can mean.
And our difficult children? Hopefully they will be able to use the gifts they have been given, and become the very best they can be, whatever that best may be.