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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 431369" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, a lot of good info there, SRL <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Thanks.</p><p>When I referred to throwing up one's hands and saying there is nothing one can do, I was not expressing myself as clearly as I could have... What I meant was thereby accepting that the child was then limited and constrained by this "diagnosis" and our understanding of it... because he or she is X, Y or Z he/she cannot do A, B or C or will manifest behaviours D, E, F... To make an alphabet soup of it. This is the danger of the label. My son is hyperactive (hyper hyperactive, actually...) yet he sits for an hour with the other kids at school doing what they do, concentrating on the little exercises they do. The teacher tells me he is largely autonomous in his "work" now. The teacher doesn't think or know he IS hyperactive. What would have happened if I had turned up on day one saying "My son has ADHD, you have to understand..." He would have just been allowed to roam around the room, perhaps.</p><p>I am NOT trying to say by this that there aren't real handicaps and limitations that come with the territory. But we are ALL limited by what other people think we are capable of, not just the difficult children of the world. And what people see us as, particularly, particularly, as children is what we tend to become...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 431369, member: 11227"] Well, a lot of good info there, SRL :-) Thanks. When I referred to throwing up one's hands and saying there is nothing one can do, I was not expressing myself as clearly as I could have... What I meant was thereby accepting that the child was then limited and constrained by this "diagnosis" and our understanding of it... because he or she is X, Y or Z he/she cannot do A, B or C or will manifest behaviours D, E, F... To make an alphabet soup of it. This is the danger of the label. My son is hyperactive (hyper hyperactive, actually...) yet he sits for an hour with the other kids at school doing what they do, concentrating on the little exercises they do. The teacher tells me he is largely autonomous in his "work" now. The teacher doesn't think or know he IS hyperactive. What would have happened if I had turned up on day one saying "My son has ADHD, you have to understand..." He would have just been allowed to roam around the room, perhaps. I am NOT trying to say by this that there aren't real handicaps and limitations that come with the territory. But we are ALL limited by what other people think we are capable of, not just the difficult children of the world. And what people see us as, particularly, particularly, as children is what we tend to become... [/QUOTE]
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