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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 411991" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>We have pretty much the same dilemma and really need to revisit the issue and revise our will.</p><p></p><p>Our earlier solution was to ask our twins' godparents to be the guardians. It was a verbal understanding that this might be a temporary arrangement while they found a better placement if needed.</p><p></p><p>In the interim, the godfather has died unexpectedly and his wife has gotten older. We are at the point where she is clearly no longer a workable choice for our difficult child 2 and maybe not even for easy child/difficult child 3.</p><p></p><p>And wife and I do not necessarily see eye-to-eye on this issue.</p><p></p><p>I want us to ask one of her brothers to agree to be guardians even though it would not be a "perfect" solution. He is a bachelor but is a nice guy and has MS so he gets to some extent difficult child 2's autoimmune health issues.</p><p></p><p>She has another brother who has raised 3 difficult child's and 1 easy child. One difficult child is dead due to a car accident which was really sad since he finally seemed to be getting himself together. The other 2 difficult child's are in and out of their lives. It's the grandchildren that they're actually connected to rather than the difficult child's. Anyway we talked seriously about asking them but felt like they had done their time already plus we think her brother's rather confrontational approach would not work with difficult child 2.</p><p></p><p>But we really do need to change it and there is no one else.</p><p></p><p>I guess I figure that, though I would like for it to be different, if we both died our kids are likely to have a rough time and be bounced around so we had better not die. I would not be surprised if difficult child 2 ended up in a group home - which actually might be a good place for him that we can't get now.</p><p></p><p>Sorry for rambling. It is a really tough question but I do think it's better to try to at least find someone in/out of the family who you can talk to frankly about the issue and see if they would be willing to serve at least as temporary guardian.</p><p></p><p>Patricia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 411991, member: 7948"] We have pretty much the same dilemma and really need to revisit the issue and revise our will. Our earlier solution was to ask our twins' godparents to be the guardians. It was a verbal understanding that this might be a temporary arrangement while they found a better placement if needed. In the interim, the godfather has died unexpectedly and his wife has gotten older. We are at the point where she is clearly no longer a workable choice for our difficult child 2 and maybe not even for easy child/difficult child 3. And wife and I do not necessarily see eye-to-eye on this issue. I want us to ask one of her brothers to agree to be guardians even though it would not be a "perfect" solution. He is a bachelor but is a nice guy and has MS so he gets to some extent difficult child 2's autoimmune health issues. She has another brother who has raised 3 difficult child's and 1 easy child. One difficult child is dead due to a car accident which was really sad since he finally seemed to be getting himself together. The other 2 difficult child's are in and out of their lives. It's the grandchildren that they're actually connected to rather than the difficult child's. Anyway we talked seriously about asking them but felt like they had done their time already plus we think her brother's rather confrontational approach would not work with difficult child 2. But we really do need to change it and there is no one else. I guess I figure that, though I would like for it to be different, if we both died our kids are likely to have a rough time and be bounced around so we had better not die. I would not be surprised if difficult child 2 ended up in a group home - which actually might be a good place for him that we can't get now. Sorry for rambling. It is a really tough question but I do think it's better to try to at least find someone in/out of the family who you can talk to frankly about the issue and see if they would be willing to serve at least as temporary guardian. Patricia [/QUOTE]
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