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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 551825" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Annika, </p><p>Yes, you are in the right place. </p><p></p><p>I have two son's that have sub abuse issues. Our oldest has now been sober for about 2 yrs and has a wife and 2 daughters. Our middle son is in prison. He has a wife and one son two daughters. </p><p>He is expected to be released in December and come home (to our house) on an ankle monitor, with mandatory AA meetings as well as once a week drug testing. </p><p></p><p>Middle son (AKA Young difficult child) has made several suicidal threats in the past and even acted out on some of them. He was dxd with Bipolar when he was 14 but does not want to accept that he has mental illness issues (like myself). Everytime he goes to the Dr it is to get pain medications or benzo's to abuse. He also loves to drink! </p><p></p><p>I agree with others that say You can't do this for them....make them reach out for help. Real sobriety has to come from within...not other people. Also think it a good idea to suggest a support group like AA to your son as often as he calls you. I think he needs to recognise that he has a problem and that you want to point him in a direction for help. </p><p></p><p>As TL and Nancy suggested...It might be a real good idea to get "real life" support from Al Anon for yourself. When I attended Al Anon it was quite an education. I learned so much about myself and life and how to communicate better with my sons as well as others. </p><p></p><p>I really think you did a wonderful job of keeping the focus where it should be when your son gave you the suicide threat. And You are so right that they sure do "emotionally blackmail" us. Pretty crafty people they are! They tend to use us like vessels to get ahold of more morney for drugs...not to better themselves. </p><p></p><p>Another thing you might want to do in the future is to suggest to son that he go and check himself into a hospital if he is truly thinking about harming himself. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 551825, member: 3305"] Hi Annika, Yes, you are in the right place. I have two son's that have sub abuse issues. Our oldest has now been sober for about 2 yrs and has a wife and 2 daughters. Our middle son is in prison. He has a wife and one son two daughters. He is expected to be released in December and come home (to our house) on an ankle monitor, with mandatory AA meetings as well as once a week drug testing. Middle son (AKA Young difficult child) has made several suicidal threats in the past and even acted out on some of them. He was dxd with Bipolar when he was 14 but does not want to accept that he has mental illness issues (like myself). Everytime he goes to the Dr it is to get pain medications or benzo's to abuse. He also loves to drink! I agree with others that say You can't do this for them....make them reach out for help. Real sobriety has to come from within...not other people. Also think it a good idea to suggest a support group like AA to your son as often as he calls you. I think he needs to recognise that he has a problem and that you want to point him in a direction for help. As TL and Nancy suggested...It might be a real good idea to get "real life" support from Al Anon for yourself. When I attended Al Anon it was quite an education. I learned so much about myself and life and how to communicate better with my sons as well as others. I really think you did a wonderful job of keeping the focus where it should be when your son gave you the suicide threat. And You are so right that they sure do "emotionally blackmail" us. Pretty crafty people they are! They tend to use us like vessels to get ahold of more morney for drugs...not to better themselves. Another thing you might want to do in the future is to suggest to son that he go and check himself into a hospital if he is truly thinking about harming himself. I'm glad you found us. LMS [/QUOTE]
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