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Half-ar**d suicide attempt or reckless idiocy or something between? And how to react?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 618423" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Well, that wasn't a fun weekend. Luckily difficult child left this morning. He and husband kept clashing all the time and lots of ugly things were said by both, things neither actually means and what were meant only to hurt. I'm not happy with either of them.</p><p></p><p>However, this morning difficult child seemed fine enough. I don't believe he is in any immediate danger of hurting himself. Other than that - well, if he wants to make his life harder than necessary, it is his choice. If he didn't get himself to more agreeable state of mind before he hit his new town and team, he will be making life very uncomfortable for himself.</p><p></p><p>I did promise him that I or his dad would not tell anyone about his new found winter swimming habits and will tell Joy to keep quiet too and that I don't think his mentor will be speaking either. But that he has to take account that it is a small town and people talk. Even if his friend doesn't talk, it doesn't mean someone else won't. The dog walker may have recognized him, even though that is unlikely and while police and health care workers do have legal confidentiality, it doesn't mean it could not come out. And his mentor probably mentioned to his wife and maybe kids about it. And while his wife probably doesn't tell and his kids are difficult child's friends, they may not consider it something they shouldn't tell their friends about. And if people will start to gossip, many will wonder how on earth he end up to water and suicide attempt will be first in many people minds (it is common way to commit suicide and unfortunately not an uncommon way for young men to die around here.)</p><p></p><p>After he left I also send him a note in WhatsApp there I begged him to be honest about what ever may have happened with himself and his therapist. That he never has to tell me or anyone else, but whatever it was and however things happened it was a very close call and something he needs to go through and make sure will never happen again and best way to assure that is take a honest look to whole thing and really talk it through with some professional. And if he doesn't want that professional to be his therapist and wants to see someone face to face in this new town, me and his dad are more than ready to pick up the tab. And that while it may appear to him that his dad and I were just angry with him, that was because he scared us so bad. That loosing him would be unimaginable for us and that it came way too close this time.</p><p></p><p>None of that he really allowed me to say to him on his face, and I'm not sure if it gets across any better in writing, but I had to try at least.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 618423, member: 14557"] Well, that wasn't a fun weekend. Luckily difficult child left this morning. He and husband kept clashing all the time and lots of ugly things were said by both, things neither actually means and what were meant only to hurt. I'm not happy with either of them. However, this morning difficult child seemed fine enough. I don't believe he is in any immediate danger of hurting himself. Other than that - well, if he wants to make his life harder than necessary, it is his choice. If he didn't get himself to more agreeable state of mind before he hit his new town and team, he will be making life very uncomfortable for himself. I did promise him that I or his dad would not tell anyone about his new found winter swimming habits and will tell Joy to keep quiet too and that I don't think his mentor will be speaking either. But that he has to take account that it is a small town and people talk. Even if his friend doesn't talk, it doesn't mean someone else won't. The dog walker may have recognized him, even though that is unlikely and while police and health care workers do have legal confidentiality, it doesn't mean it could not come out. And his mentor probably mentioned to his wife and maybe kids about it. And while his wife probably doesn't tell and his kids are difficult child's friends, they may not consider it something they shouldn't tell their friends about. And if people will start to gossip, many will wonder how on earth he end up to water and suicide attempt will be first in many people minds (it is common way to commit suicide and unfortunately not an uncommon way for young men to die around here.) After he left I also send him a note in WhatsApp there I begged him to be honest about what ever may have happened with himself and his therapist. That he never has to tell me or anyone else, but whatever it was and however things happened it was a very close call and something he needs to go through and make sure will never happen again and best way to assure that is take a honest look to whole thing and really talk it through with some professional. And if he doesn't want that professional to be his therapist and wants to see someone face to face in this new town, me and his dad are more than ready to pick up the tab. And that while it may appear to him that his dad and I were just angry with him, that was because he scared us so bad. That loosing him would be unimaginable for us and that it came way too close this time. None of that he really allowed me to say to him on his face, and I'm not sure if it gets across any better in writing, but I had to try at least. [/QUOTE]
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