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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 183237" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>This is just a thought.....</p><p> </p><p>I noticed that you have a reoccuring theme when it comes to these bad times with Tink-she's your ex and your being pushed around again. You, once again, are her victim. I don't know. Regardless of Tink, and what SHE thinks, YOU are the boss. Period. Now, by stating that I don't mean she will always, or even sometimes, do what you say, but I see that same dynamic every time you clash with Tink. She goes into her mode, and you go into yours. Yours being frustrated, exasperated, and fearful. </p><p> </p><p>I would have responded with: "When you are an adult, and buy a baker's rack with YOUR OWN MONEY, then you can make the decisions about whose stuff, and where it goes. In the mean time, I paid for it, I'm the adult, and I DECIDE. Discussion closed." (Actually, I would have said, "got it?"). Then, I would go back to whatever I'm doing and ignore her. </p><p> </p><p>P.S. I have to remind my difficult children CONSTANTLY who the adult, and boss (me), is in my house. Otherwise, they would have usurped me eons ago. They also challenge me, especially Son, on a continuing basis. </p><p> </p><p>As far as spanking. Honestly,it's not a big deal. Yes, it's bigger deal for us. My Dad used to beat the living day lights out of me, but once the dust settled, I always wanted his love and affection. I never rejected him as a child, and believe you me, when I look back now, he certainly deserved to be rejected. In all honesty, I don't think it wise to allow Tink to see you upset, at all. Apologise to her <em>calmly without guilt</em>, if it helps you move on. Then, let it go. She obviously has.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 183237, member: 831"] This is just a thought..... I noticed that you have a reoccuring theme when it comes to these bad times with Tink-she's your ex and your being pushed around again. You, once again, are her victim. I don't know. Regardless of Tink, and what SHE thinks, YOU are the boss. Period. Now, by stating that I don't mean she will always, or even sometimes, do what you say, but I see that same dynamic every time you clash with Tink. She goes into her mode, and you go into yours. Yours being frustrated, exasperated, and fearful. I would have responded with: "When you are an adult, and buy a baker's rack with YOUR OWN MONEY, then you can make the decisions about whose stuff, and where it goes. In the mean time, I paid for it, I'm the adult, and I DECIDE. Discussion closed." (Actually, I would have said, "got it?"). Then, I would go back to whatever I'm doing and ignore her. P.S. I have to remind my difficult children CONSTANTLY who the adult, and boss (me), is in my house. Otherwise, they would have usurped me eons ago. They also challenge me, especially Son, on a continuing basis. As far as spanking. Honestly,it's not a big deal. Yes, it's bigger deal for us. My Dad used to beat the living day lights out of me, but once the dust settled, I always wanted his love and affection. I never rejected him as a child, and believe you me, when I look back now, he certainly deserved to be rejected. In all honesty, I don't think it wise to allow Tink to see you upset, at all. Apologise to her [I]calmly without guilt[/I], if it helps you move on. Then, let it go. She obviously has. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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