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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 334179" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Ignore the invites. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Tony may not like it, but there is such a thing as karma, reap what you sow, whatever you want to call it. This doesn't really have anything to do with your feelings about his family. They didn't bother or feel moved to celebrate your family milestones, no reason for you to bother to celebrate theirs. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>Being my husband's 2nd wife I had no idea what I was walking in to, mostly because husband left out any background on the real reason he divorced his 1st wife. I met his family on our honeymoon. (great huh?) His parents were wonderful, especially mother in law. But his brother was another story and his brother's daughter were another story. I read body language exceptionally well. I was hated upon first sight. Actually first time I met brother in law...my sister in law had to drag him into the bedroom and viciously remind him on how to be polite to guests in their house. She couldn't believe how rude he was acting. And of course I over heard most of it. (although she did try to prevent that)</p><p></p><p>I didn't find out the reason behind their cold hatred until several years later when husband's great aunt came to live with his parents. She also hated me on sight, although she clearly adored easy child and Travis who were babies. She was a southern lady to the hilt, but made it perfectly clear that I wasn't good enough for her to scrape her shoes on. After a few months of this (and her driving poor mother in law crazy) mother in law decided it was time to explain. Seems husband's ex left him because she caught him having an affair our of state with an old flame. (he'd went tdy to Illinois) After the divorce he got stationed in Illinois where I met him. (a year later) Seems all the family members who hated my guts all had it in their heads that I was the "mistress" who had broken up his first marriage. mother in law and sister in law are the only ones who believed me. </p><p></p><p>So I've lived with 27 years of cold shoulders and hard stares. My kids have also suffered unnecessarily. It deepened the rift between husband and his brother. And it's only been recently that husband brother has actually spoken to me instead of slipping out of the room as quickly as possible. lol</p><p></p><p>Never any family invites to anything. Although I did send all of easy child's baby clothes to my Niece when she was pregnant with her first child.......That got ignored and never repeated. So my kids never thought to include them in anything either. They never got invites to graduations, although when Travis graduated my nieces eldest also was graduating from the same school. They never got invited to easy child's wedding. And the only word they got on the grandkids was via mother in law.</p><p></p><p>And thanks to my brother in law's and nieces attitude.....neice's youngest child who is Nichole's age and living with her boyfriend with a baby.....Is here all alone (family all moved to virgina). There was never a relationship formed.....so we never think to include her in anything, although it's actually not intentional. She's a sweet kid.</p><p></p><p>You reap what you sow. </p><p></p><p>Those invites are meant to imply they want a gift. phooey! Dump 'em in the trash and forget about them.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 334179, member: 84"] Ignore the invites. :) Tony may not like it, but there is such a thing as karma, reap what you sow, whatever you want to call it. This doesn't really have anything to do with your feelings about his family. They didn't bother or feel moved to celebrate your family milestones, no reason for you to bother to celebrate theirs. Know what I mean?? Being my husband's 2nd wife I had no idea what I was walking in to, mostly because husband left out any background on the real reason he divorced his 1st wife. I met his family on our honeymoon. (great huh?) His parents were wonderful, especially mother in law. But his brother was another story and his brother's daughter were another story. I read body language exceptionally well. I was hated upon first sight. Actually first time I met brother in law...my sister in law had to drag him into the bedroom and viciously remind him on how to be polite to guests in their house. She couldn't believe how rude he was acting. And of course I over heard most of it. (although she did try to prevent that) I didn't find out the reason behind their cold hatred until several years later when husband's great aunt came to live with his parents. She also hated me on sight, although she clearly adored easy child and Travis who were babies. She was a southern lady to the hilt, but made it perfectly clear that I wasn't good enough for her to scrape her shoes on. After a few months of this (and her driving poor mother in law crazy) mother in law decided it was time to explain. Seems husband's ex left him because she caught him having an affair our of state with an old flame. (he'd went tdy to Illinois) After the divorce he got stationed in Illinois where I met him. (a year later) Seems all the family members who hated my guts all had it in their heads that I was the "mistress" who had broken up his first marriage. mother in law and sister in law are the only ones who believed me. So I've lived with 27 years of cold shoulders and hard stares. My kids have also suffered unnecessarily. It deepened the rift between husband and his brother. And it's only been recently that husband brother has actually spoken to me instead of slipping out of the room as quickly as possible. lol Never any family invites to anything. Although I did send all of easy child's baby clothes to my Niece when she was pregnant with her first child.......That got ignored and never repeated. So my kids never thought to include them in anything either. They never got invites to graduations, although when Travis graduated my nieces eldest also was graduating from the same school. They never got invited to easy child's wedding. And the only word they got on the grandkids was via mother in law. And thanks to my brother in law's and nieces attitude.....neice's youngest child who is Nichole's age and living with her boyfriend with a baby.....Is here all alone (family all moved to virgina). There was never a relationship formed.....so we never think to include her in anything, although it's actually not intentional. She's a sweet kid. You reap what you sow. Those invites are meant to imply they want a gift. phooey! Dump 'em in the trash and forget about them. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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