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Have you ever *really* thrown your kid out?
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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 368115" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Yes, I did when she was a little over 18. But, she was with boyfriend so at least she wasn't all alone. They went to the Red Cross and got shelter from them. I'm not sure exactly what led me to the point where I was ready to say no more but I think it had a lot to do with my younger dtr who was suffering from all of the drama. </p><p></p><p> I had one of those "lightbulb" moments where I realized I had to put younger dtr first, for the first time in her life. I had always put difficult child 1 first because of her issues. My older son and younger dtr were pretty much left to fend for themselves. I decided no more--difficult child had sucked up all our financial resources, our emotional energy, everything--and for what? Nothing! Nothing we did to help her actually seemed to help, only enabled her.</p><p></p><p>So, I not only kicked her out but I have never allowed her to come back. Luckily she hasn't really tried to come back--she did try when she was 8 months pregnant but she lived across the country from me and I told her she could not come for a "visit" because I knew what she was up to--she wouldn't leave. She made the mistake of telling me she was getting a one-way ticket!</p><p></p><p>Her younger sister has been in therapy for years because of life with difficult child. She told me a couple of days ago that she wishes difficult child wasn't her sister and that she felt she was a terrible person for saying that. But, it is what it is. She has good reasons for her feelings.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you. I personally don't feel you should have to put up with all this **** and if she was my kid I would not let her live with me.</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 368115, member: 3208"] Yes, I did when she was a little over 18. But, she was with boyfriend so at least she wasn't all alone. They went to the Red Cross and got shelter from them. I'm not sure exactly what led me to the point where I was ready to say no more but I think it had a lot to do with my younger dtr who was suffering from all of the drama. I had one of those "lightbulb" moments where I realized I had to put younger dtr first, for the first time in her life. I had always put difficult child 1 first because of her issues. My older son and younger dtr were pretty much left to fend for themselves. I decided no more--difficult child had sucked up all our financial resources, our emotional energy, everything--and for what? Nothing! Nothing we did to help her actually seemed to help, only enabled her. So, I not only kicked her out but I have never allowed her to come back. Luckily she hasn't really tried to come back--she did try when she was 8 months pregnant but she lived across the country from me and I told her she could not come for a "visit" because I knew what she was up to--she wouldn't leave. She made the mistake of telling me she was getting a one-way ticket! Her younger sister has been in therapy for years because of life with difficult child. She told me a couple of days ago that she wishes difficult child wasn't her sister and that she felt she was a terrible person for saying that. But, it is what it is. She has good reasons for her feelings. Good luck to you. I personally don't feel you should have to put up with all this **** and if she was my kid I would not let her live with me. Jane [/QUOTE]
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