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Have you ever *really* thrown your kid out?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 368149" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>The saying that I use and that I'm trying to get husband to understand is that "<u>Nothing<u> changes unless something changes" And since we can't change someone else. It is US that has to change. If you keep following the same pattern over and over, you will get the same result. Maybe it is time to change. </u></u></p><p><u><u></u></u></p><p><u><u>When I changed this year and refused to go to my mother in law's for Christmas things changed...mainly for me because I realized that I don't have to suffer from her yuck. And my changing seems to have given husband just the tiniest permission to not take all of her yuck. He has a long way to go, but seeing that the world didn't end because of what I did, he has a little hope. </u></u></p><p><u><u></u></u></p><p><u><u>husband isn't there with his kids yet. 6 weeks ago, he laid down the law to difficult child-A - have your GED by 7/16 or your phone is being turned off. difficult child-A hasn't done a thing about getting it except texting husband that he will do it....whatever. difficult child-A is playing husband like always and husband is falling for it. husband is already back-peddling with me about leaving his phone on. I knew this was going to happen and so did difficult child-A. Until husband changes his patterns, difficult child-A can continue to play his games with no consequences.... we all know it. </u></u></p><p><u><u></u></u></p><p><u><u>I wish you the best of luck and hope you have the strength to make the changes neccesary so that the pattern changes. Good luck and we are here for you if you need us to hold you up and reinforce you.</u></u></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 368149, member: 65"] The saying that I use and that I'm trying to get husband to understand is that "[U]Nothing[U] changes unless something changes" And since we can't change someone else. It is US that has to change. If you keep following the same pattern over and over, you will get the same result. Maybe it is time to change. When I changed this year and refused to go to my mother in law's for Christmas things changed...mainly for me because I realized that I don't have to suffer from her yuck. And my changing seems to have given husband just the tiniest permission to not take all of her yuck. He has a long way to go, but seeing that the world didn't end because of what I did, he has a little hope. husband isn't there with his kids yet. 6 weeks ago, he laid down the law to difficult child-A - have your GED by 7/16 or your phone is being turned off. difficult child-A hasn't done a thing about getting it except texting husband that he will do it....whatever. difficult child-A is playing husband like always and husband is falling for it. husband is already back-peddling with me about leaving his phone on. I knew this was going to happen and so did difficult child-A. Until husband changes his patterns, difficult child-A can continue to play his games with no consequences.... we all know it. I wish you the best of luck and hope you have the strength to make the changes neccesary so that the pattern changes. Good luck and we are here for you if you need us to hold you up and reinforce you.[/U][/U] [/QUOTE]
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