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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 431800" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know exactly what you mean. When I got married a well meaning older friend told me that it won't be the big issues that break a marriage up - it is leaving the cap off the toothpaste or the toilet seat up. Our first HUGE fight after we were married happened the night I went to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, sat my hugely pregnant tushie down and there was no seat - and I got STUCK. I had to scream for five minutes to get husband up!!!!! NOW we laugh about it - but right then I wanted to kill him and raise my baby as an orphan. </p><p></p><p>Personally, your difficult child would hear an earful each time she fussed at ME for leaving a light or the tv on. Each time I would pull out a LIST of times that she left thigns on - and would be told that when SHE pays the bills for ME she can THINK about telling me what to do or complaining about what I do. Until then she had better shut her mouth or it would be generic non organic everything and there would be NO fun things or treats until she started behaving that way. And I would do it with-o a seconds hesistation. As for the dishes and you leaving a can int he other room? Learn to develop Hound's "Excuuuuuuse Me? I did NOT hear you just say that!" (See shari's thread about husband problem/question for more on this.)</p><p></p><p>There is NO reason for you to let her treat you like this. STOP going in to get her rat if it makes you break out in hives. Hives are terribly uncomfortable and they do awful things to your body. Having them over and over is something that you NEED to do all you can to avoid. So if she cannot do what is needed for them, then they need to go live with another family and she can visit them. ANY allergist or immunologist will tell you to get them out of your house ASAP. Not doing it is a choice and as parents sometimes we make choices like this. But you do have to stop touching them. If nothing else, get disposable gloves and wear them when you must go and touch the rats and their possessions. Also get some of those paper masks and wear those wehn you are in their room. This will likely improve your health and increase the good days that you have, at least by a little. NOT doing this, and getting hives often, will tear your body up before much longer. I don't think you or difficult child will handle that well.</p><p></p><p>As for getting difficult child 2 over to do something that difficult child wants? It is high time for her to learn how to call him and ask. he may or may not show up, but if he doesn't then she needs to call about that also. At her age she has to learn how to cope with the world if you want her to have a chance as an adult, Know what I mean?? </p><p></p><p>It may be mean, but sometimes we need to learn to become the ant to our children to get them to do what they should and treat us with the respect we are owed. Ants are SOOOOOOOOOOO much more of a problem than elephants.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 431800, member: 1233"] I know exactly what you mean. When I got married a well meaning older friend told me that it won't be the big issues that break a marriage up - it is leaving the cap off the toothpaste or the toilet seat up. Our first HUGE fight after we were married happened the night I went to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, sat my hugely pregnant tushie down and there was no seat - and I got STUCK. I had to scream for five minutes to get husband up!!!!! NOW we laugh about it - but right then I wanted to kill him and raise my baby as an orphan. Personally, your difficult child would hear an earful each time she fussed at ME for leaving a light or the tv on. Each time I would pull out a LIST of times that she left thigns on - and would be told that when SHE pays the bills for ME she can THINK about telling me what to do or complaining about what I do. Until then she had better shut her mouth or it would be generic non organic everything and there would be NO fun things or treats until she started behaving that way. And I would do it with-o a seconds hesistation. As for the dishes and you leaving a can int he other room? Learn to develop Hound's "Excuuuuuuse Me? I did NOT hear you just say that!" (See shari's thread about husband problem/question for more on this.) There is NO reason for you to let her treat you like this. STOP going in to get her rat if it makes you break out in hives. Hives are terribly uncomfortable and they do awful things to your body. Having them over and over is something that you NEED to do all you can to avoid. So if she cannot do what is needed for them, then they need to go live with another family and she can visit them. ANY allergist or immunologist will tell you to get them out of your house ASAP. Not doing it is a choice and as parents sometimes we make choices like this. But you do have to stop touching them. If nothing else, get disposable gloves and wear them when you must go and touch the rats and their possessions. Also get some of those paper masks and wear those wehn you are in their room. This will likely improve your health and increase the good days that you have, at least by a little. NOT doing this, and getting hives often, will tear your body up before much longer. I don't think you or difficult child will handle that well. As for getting difficult child 2 over to do something that difficult child wants? It is high time for her to learn how to call him and ask. he may or may not show up, but if he doesn't then she needs to call about that also. At her age she has to learn how to cope with the world if you want her to have a chance as an adult, Know what I mean?? It may be mean, but sometimes we need to learn to become the ant to our children to get them to do what they should and treat us with the respect we are owed. Ants are SOOOOOOOOOOO much more of a problem than elephants. [/QUOTE]
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