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Haven't Been Here In A While.. Dr says maybe ADHD?
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 569124"><p>All I can say is hold fast. She knows your stipulations and she needs to know that you aren't going to cave just because she's throwing tantrums. Yes, I have heard those exact same words when they really wanted to hide something from me. I stick to my guns no matter the behavior so they know I mean what I say and that is it. I constantly remind them that they can either do it my way or not at all. It sometimes takes a LONG time for them to "think right" and cave but they always do because they know I won't. I also tell them when they are acting like that that if they "are going to throw 'two year old temper tantrums' I will gladly treat you like two year olds which means no electronics for another 10 years because 2 year olds don't get electronics". Sometimes I even have to throw out the "I'm the adult, you're the child, and until you're 18 I control EVERYTHING. I'm being nice by letting you have/do x, y and z but if you're not going to be nice to me then I won't let you do x or y or z or even a, b,c for that matter". After that point, I totally ignore all the behavior and wait oh so patiently (well, sometimes not) for them to comply. With difficult child 1, it takes longer vor everything to sink in and more behavior until he processes it all, but in the end all's well that ends well. Things have gotten a little better around here because I think they are finally realizing that I mean business.</p><p></p><p>As for diagnosis, check with area children's hospitals. That's where our neuropsychologist is and medicaid paid the bill. As for a psychiatrist, check with your local social services agency (here it's called our County Social Services) and ask for a listing of psychiatrists that accept medicaid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 569124"] All I can say is hold fast. She knows your stipulations and she needs to know that you aren't going to cave just because she's throwing tantrums. Yes, I have heard those exact same words when they really wanted to hide something from me. I stick to my guns no matter the behavior so they know I mean what I say and that is it. I constantly remind them that they can either do it my way or not at all. It sometimes takes a LONG time for them to "think right" and cave but they always do because they know I won't. I also tell them when they are acting like that that if they "are going to throw 'two year old temper tantrums' I will gladly treat you like two year olds which means no electronics for another 10 years because 2 year olds don't get electronics". Sometimes I even have to throw out the "I'm the adult, you're the child, and until you're 18 I control EVERYTHING. I'm being nice by letting you have/do x, y and z but if you're not going to be nice to me then I won't let you do x or y or z or even a, b,c for that matter". After that point, I totally ignore all the behavior and wait oh so patiently (well, sometimes not) for them to comply. With difficult child 1, it takes longer vor everything to sink in and more behavior until he processes it all, but in the end all's well that ends well. Things have gotten a little better around here because I think they are finally realizing that I mean business. As for diagnosis, check with area children's hospitals. That's where our neuropsychologist is and medicaid paid the bill. As for a psychiatrist, check with your local social services agency (here it's called our County Social Services) and ask for a listing of psychiatrists that accept medicaid. [/QUOTE]
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