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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 592435" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It would be better if you found a doctor who has counseled a lot of adopted kids. I know kiddo isn't adopted, but he has had many of the same experiences kids in foster care have...lots of caregivers, no stability, crazy father, lots of moving around, etc. Most therpaists haven't a clue what attachment disorder is, which is why they never caught it with our adopted son. But when they hauled him off to a juvenile jail, a place I"m sure you never want your son to see, he was instantly tagged with his true diagnosis "SEVERE REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER." Until they knew all of the stuff he was doing, including hurting and killling animals and perping on kids (we didn't know this to tell them), he got other diagnoses instead. Tdocs don't usually learn much about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). They plain old don't teach them about it enough. You learn about it if you get a lot of children who are adopted. You can't help it then. Right now, you don't know everything kiddo has done, so it's hard to get a therapist to diagnose something he/she probably knows very little about. Yet you need to protect the other kids from him and the therapist has to believe you about this. He is a threat...how much of one, you can't know yet. You simply don't know everything he has done, either at home or on kids in the community (or pets in the community). Our kiddo tried to kill and/or killed many neighborhood pets or wandering pets. My daughter saw him and sometimes stopped him, but couldn't always know if he continued after she was gone. And often he threatened to kill us if she didn't leave and keep what she saw a secret. She was terrified of him. And these were to our neighbors, some that we didn't even know. Nobody suspected him of anything or, if so, nobody told us. Wish they had.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 592435, member: 1550"] It would be better if you found a doctor who has counseled a lot of adopted kids. I know kiddo isn't adopted, but he has had many of the same experiences kids in foster care have...lots of caregivers, no stability, crazy father, lots of moving around, etc. Most therpaists haven't a clue what attachment disorder is, which is why they never caught it with our adopted son. But when they hauled him off to a juvenile jail, a place I"m sure you never want your son to see, he was instantly tagged with his true diagnosis "SEVERE REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER." Until they knew all of the stuff he was doing, including hurting and killling animals and perping on kids (we didn't know this to tell them), he got other diagnoses instead. Tdocs don't usually learn much about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). They plain old don't teach them about it enough. You learn about it if you get a lot of children who are adopted. You can't help it then. Right now, you don't know everything kiddo has done, so it's hard to get a therapist to diagnose something he/she probably knows very little about. Yet you need to protect the other kids from him and the therapist has to believe you about this. He is a threat...how much of one, you can't know yet. You simply don't know everything he has done, either at home or on kids in the community (or pets in the community). Our kiddo tried to kill and/or killed many neighborhood pets or wandering pets. My daughter saw him and sometimes stopped him, but couldn't always know if he continued after she was gone. And often he threatened to kill us if she didn't leave and keep what she saw a secret. She was terrified of him. And these were to our neighbors, some that we didn't even know. Nobody suspected him of anything or, if so, nobody told us. Wish they had. Hugs and keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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