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<blockquote data-quote="dun4" data-source="post: 294685" data-attributes="member: 7792"><p>Thanks again for the responses. I don't have much support here, so it's great to read your messages. Midwest Mom how did your daughter behave, and what was she using? If you don't mind my asking. I hate to admit that I smoked some pot in my college years. Did a lot of drinking too. I haven't "partied" in over 25 years, so he's never seen me use drugs. I drink rarely, probably average 1 drink a year. In school, I saw many people using other drugs, and I don't see that in difficult child. I don't know the signs with these new drugs. difficult child just finished 3 weeks of summer school, 7AM-4PM. I didn't have to get him out of bed once. He was up and out of the house by 6:30AM. He took Algebra II and Senior English, got an A & a B. He had one incident with the English teacher. He asked for help twice one afternoon, she didn't get to him. She told him she'd help him the next afternoon, which she did, but she wouldn't give him credit for the assignment because it was due the previous day. difficult child felt that was unfair and called me to get a meeting with the principle. I recommended he discuss the issue with the teacher, explain why he thought it was unfair. If she still wouldn't change her mind, to ask to speak to the principle. He actually did everything I recommended but it was interspersed with FU's every where. My gut tells me I have to get him away from the kids he's hanging with, that was why I was sending him to the boot camp. It would have had the added benefit of getting him his GED. It's to late for the camp now, and his behavior is spiraling down again. Both his pdr and the youth counselor don't think I should send him to the camp. His pdr says he's workable. I can't help but wonder if it's the job security his pdr wants. His pdr was recommended by several people and the only one in town my insurance will cover. I am going to discuss the drug issue again with the pdr and the family counselor we are going to start seeing. I don't mind sending him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) if I new he was using. I am terrified of sending him away for drug treatment if that's not his problem. difficult child was diagnosed as ADD when he was 10, reluctantly tried every drug. His behavior on the medications was horrible, it didn't improve his grades. The doctory agreed and we took him off those after 1 year. I did discover he had an eye problem about that time. He did a year of eye therapy and since then he's been on the honor roll. He has always become frustrated with authority figures that he thought weren't doing their job. We'd usually have one issue a year with a teacher. I'd love to hear more of what you think. We may not be doctors but I believe there is a lot to be said for experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dun4, post: 294685, member: 7792"] Thanks again for the responses. I don't have much support here, so it's great to read your messages. Midwest Mom how did your daughter behave, and what was she using? If you don't mind my asking. I hate to admit that I smoked some pot in my college years. Did a lot of drinking too. I haven't "partied" in over 25 years, so he's never seen me use drugs. I drink rarely, probably average 1 drink a year. In school, I saw many people using other drugs, and I don't see that in difficult child. I don't know the signs with these new drugs. difficult child just finished 3 weeks of summer school, 7AM-4PM. I didn't have to get him out of bed once. He was up and out of the house by 6:30AM. He took Algebra II and Senior English, got an A & a B. He had one incident with the English teacher. He asked for help twice one afternoon, she didn't get to him. She told him she'd help him the next afternoon, which she did, but she wouldn't give him credit for the assignment because it was due the previous day. difficult child felt that was unfair and called me to get a meeting with the principle. I recommended he discuss the issue with the teacher, explain why he thought it was unfair. If she still wouldn't change her mind, to ask to speak to the principle. He actually did everything I recommended but it was interspersed with FU's every where. My gut tells me I have to get him away from the kids he's hanging with, that was why I was sending him to the boot camp. It would have had the added benefit of getting him his GED. It's to late for the camp now, and his behavior is spiraling down again. Both his pdr and the youth counselor don't think I should send him to the camp. His pdr says he's workable. I can't help but wonder if it's the job security his pdr wants. His pdr was recommended by several people and the only one in town my insurance will cover. I am going to discuss the drug issue again with the pdr and the family counselor we are going to start seeing. I don't mind sending him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) if I new he was using. I am terrified of sending him away for drug treatment if that's not his problem. difficult child was diagnosed as ADD when he was 10, reluctantly tried every drug. His behavior on the medications was horrible, it didn't improve his grades. The doctory agreed and we took him off those after 1 year. I did discover he had an eye problem about that time. He did a year of eye therapy and since then he's been on the honor roll. He has always become frustrated with authority figures that he thought weren't doing their job. We'd usually have one issue a year with a teacher. I'd love to hear more of what you think. We may not be doctors but I believe there is a lot to be said for experience. [/QUOTE]
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