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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 294838" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Despite the negative test results, I also would not discount drugs either. However, all bases need to be covered. And yes, surgery of course can do damage because it cuts ito the body just as anything else. It leaves scar tissue. The main difference is, surgery is more controlled, more known. But there are still limits.</p><p></p><p>ALso there can be new things happening especially if he's skating and has a fall. A clear scan on one day doesn't mean that there isn't a slow bleed which te next day is putting pressure on the brain.</p><p></p><p>There are also parts of the brain which can be directly connected to temper, aggression and impulse control. The amygdala comes to mind.</p><p></p><p>A kid who is doing drugs could be mixing anything, taking anything (inclusing prescription medications swiped form family or friends or bought off the street). would preascription medications show up on a drug screen? I also don't understand how a drug screen can guarantee no drug use for the previous 3 months - when easy child 2/difficult child 2 had her drink spiked at a Christmas party last year and was nearly raped (and also could have died) she was told that unless they did blood tests that night, nothing would show up. We suspect she was given GHB, she was really sick on the night, nauseated and headachey for days and has had stomach troubles ever since. Her behaviour while affected was apparently really strange - she was loud, acted drunk, was walking around semi-naked (very unlike her even when drunk).</p><p></p><p>Other drugs have different effects, but "we can know for sure for the back tree months" frankly sounds unbelievable.</p><p></p><p>Keep an eye on any prescription medication supplies in your home as well as his grandparents' medications. He mightn't be using what he swipes, but he could be swapping it (if he's using drugs at all - I agree about keeping an open mind but I wouldn't have too much faith in the tests, there are new drugs all the time and tests can barely keep up).</p><p></p><p>Other thoughts - what else could produce a sudden change? Is there a chance he was bullied or molested? Especially at school? It could account for why he begged to be allowed to drop out. Even an intelligent kid would expect you to KNOW if he has been molested and to be furious with you for not recognising it (and not protecting him). Boys especially will be very reluctant to admit it to anyone, because there are so many other nasty factors for boys in how they feel about themselves and their own body response to, say, a rape. It could account for a sudden change and for you being especially a focus.</p><p></p><p>A book we refer people to a lot here is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Depending on what the problem is here, I don't know how much it will be able to help you, but reading it sahould at least do you no harm and may give you some different ways to try to handle him while you're trying to unravel the puzzle.</p><p></p><p>Consider ALL possibilities. Even if one is proven, don't discount others. If any are disproven, don't rule them out either now or in the future. Keep detailed notes, keep a diary in fact. Things you're certain you won't forget still need to be logged because so much will happen that you can't hold it all in your head. Put down the detail so you can move on and stay as sane as possible.</p><p></p><p>Glad you found us. We're here for support.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 294838, member: 1991"] Despite the negative test results, I also would not discount drugs either. However, all bases need to be covered. And yes, surgery of course can do damage because it cuts ito the body just as anything else. It leaves scar tissue. The main difference is, surgery is more controlled, more known. But there are still limits. ALso there can be new things happening especially if he's skating and has a fall. A clear scan on one day doesn't mean that there isn't a slow bleed which te next day is putting pressure on the brain. There are also parts of the brain which can be directly connected to temper, aggression and impulse control. The amygdala comes to mind. A kid who is doing drugs could be mixing anything, taking anything (inclusing prescription medications swiped form family or friends or bought off the street). would preascription medications show up on a drug screen? I also don't understand how a drug screen can guarantee no drug use for the previous 3 months - when easy child 2/difficult child 2 had her drink spiked at a Christmas party last year and was nearly raped (and also could have died) she was told that unless they did blood tests that night, nothing would show up. We suspect she was given GHB, she was really sick on the night, nauseated and headachey for days and has had stomach troubles ever since. Her behaviour while affected was apparently really strange - she was loud, acted drunk, was walking around semi-naked (very unlike her even when drunk). Other drugs have different effects, but "we can know for sure for the back tree months" frankly sounds unbelievable. Keep an eye on any prescription medication supplies in your home as well as his grandparents' medications. He mightn't be using what he swipes, but he could be swapping it (if he's using drugs at all - I agree about keeping an open mind but I wouldn't have too much faith in the tests, there are new drugs all the time and tests can barely keep up). Other thoughts - what else could produce a sudden change? Is there a chance he was bullied or molested? Especially at school? It could account for why he begged to be allowed to drop out. Even an intelligent kid would expect you to KNOW if he has been molested and to be furious with you for not recognising it (and not protecting him). Boys especially will be very reluctant to admit it to anyone, because there are so many other nasty factors for boys in how they feel about themselves and their own body response to, say, a rape. It could account for a sudden change and for you being especially a focus. A book we refer people to a lot here is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Depending on what the problem is here, I don't know how much it will be able to help you, but reading it sahould at least do you no harm and may give you some different ways to try to handle him while you're trying to unravel the puzzle. Consider ALL possibilities. Even if one is proven, don't discount others. If any are disproven, don't rule them out either now or in the future. Keep detailed notes, keep a diary in fact. Things you're certain you won't forget still need to be logged because so much will happen that you can't hold it all in your head. Put down the detail so you can move on and stay as sane as possible. Glad you found us. We're here for support. Marg [/QUOTE]
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