he ripped the wallpaper off the wall at school.

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Shari, Mar 13, 2008.

  1. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    It was warm today. His shoes were bothering (it took us 2 years to keep shoes on his feet - sensory thing...). So, at school, he took them off, refused to put them back on. Hour long power struggle. He finally put on shoes then started whopping other kids and ripping the wallpaper off the walls.

    Was also hungry, thankfully, one teacher realized this and gave him 4 times more snack. I still fed him before coming home and he ate more than I could, now we're home and he's had 2 more things to eat. Thankfully no one is home so I turned heat way up and lights way down.

    I went and got a new pair of sandals for school...
  2. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    It's funny you should say that he was hungry. It took us a long time to realize that when M was hungry, he was mean. When he was tired, he was goofy. When he hit puberty he was always hungry. And always mean...

    Sorry about the day. been there done that... This too shall pass (but not for a while).
  3. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911


    When Dude doesn't eat right - or gets too much sugar he is a first rate PITA. He's mean, unruly- and generally not nice. His demeanor changes, he's hostile, short tempered, quips, slams, jerks, and is just not able to get along.

    I wonder if he did this before or after lunch and if you maybe need to have them monitor what he's eating for lunch?

    As far as the shoes - How about slippers that look like shoes? Dude wore those to school - no one said a word. When he wore the Elmo slippers to Adult Ed - they told him to come back tomorrow with street shoes....lol.

    As far as the wallpaper? It can be replaced I'm sure they have extra rolls. If not - call the contractor who did the paperhanging - and ask him for the lot # and brand - you can usually order it on line. And if it's that old that you can't order it - TIME for a change :D
  4. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    He did it during the after school part of the day; 4-5 oclock. School doesn' serve lunch, I have to pack it, and he had the same thing as always minus a banana cause husband ate the last one - turkey and cheddar, a clementine, strawberries, a fruit rollup and a kiwi drink. They were getting ready to call me when I showed up to pick him up after work, anyway. It must have been a doozie cause 3 teachers/helpers were just exasperated with him.

    I should have seen the shoe issue coming. I know shoes are an issue, and more so when it gets warm, it was 70+ here today - he usually throws the shoes off at anything above 55. We have sandals now, I'll probably carry them back and forth to school for this purpose til the weather's more stable.
  5. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I think that maybe something in his IEP about shoes might be called for. I remember being so uncomfortable with various clothing items that it certainly interfered with MY learning. and I was not as severe as he sounds.

    I would take him and try ALL sorts of shoes/slippers at the shoe store (s). ALWAYS make sure they fit - with thank you I never ever know if his shoes are too small. He only says his legs hurt. After years of this he still doesn't clue in to leg ache = shoes too small.

    Does he receive brushing therapy? With thank you we found he is much more able to tolerate a LOT of things after just a few weeks on the brushing. If he has an Occupational Therapist (OT), the Occupational Therapist (OT) should be able to teach you this. At first the brushing should be every 2 hours or so - even during school. The payoff for school is that it makes many kids much more relaxed after. And it takes about 2 minutes. Teachers and aides can easily learn it.

    Would crocs work? They hurt a lot less when thrown. I prefer the brand name, other people find other brands work better for them. Some are softer than others.

    Does the afterschool program provide snacks? Maybe your child needs to be given more of a snack. They may give you the "not fair to everyone else" spiel. That is why kids are individuals. If no snack, or the snack is not enough, pack something for after school. Or see if they will able to let you send in a big box of something for the week and have them store it. That way if he is super hungry they can give him more and then let you know he is out early.

    Hungry makes so many kids act out. So do sugar (or too much sugar) food coloring, preservatives, additives, etc.... Like Dude and the others, my difficult child is mean, even vicious, if he gets too much sugar or sugar on an empty stomach.

    Is there something other than fruit rolls that he likes? Or can you get fruit rolls at the health food store, the ones with-o the extra sugar and food color? We had a lot of trouble with these. With difficult child I used a dehydrator and made fruit rollups (puree fresh or froz fruit and spread on wax paper cut to fit the tray - let sit for a few days).

    As for the wallpaper - was it coming loose? MANY kids will pick at wallpaper with a seam that is coming loose (including mine). Yes, it is a good idea to teach him not to do this. Yes, you do get into trouble for this. BUT the school should NOT have wallpaper that isn't sealed tightly because one source of lead poisioning in kids is from wallpaper pulling paint off when it peels. (Not sure this is relevant in your case, but it could be ammo if they are over-harsh with your son.)

    They should have extra wallpaper. Or maybe you can provide a poster of a work of art to put over the spot where he peeled the wallpaper off.

    Sorry it was such a tough day.